It has taken me almost three decades to effectively communicate the intricacies of my anxiety. I can describe the sensations—my skin prickling, my chest constricting, and the overwhelming urge to control every aspect of my life.
I don’t aim to be obsessive or neurotic; I recognize this as a genuine issue. I understand that these thoughts are often unrealistic and impractical. Yet, regardless of their validity, these emotions are real, and they weigh heavily on me.
I find myself crafting lists and revising them endlessly. I meticulously plan for events that may never occur. I maintain multiple budgets to ensure every bill is settled and that we have enough for groceries before the next paycheck. My mind rearranges itself, hoping for a mental shift that will create comfort in my own environment.
I have even mentally prepared for the potential loss of my partner. I ponder where my children and I would reside and how we would cope without him. He isn’t sick—far from it—but my worry spirals, extending to my family members, including my parents and siblings.
These feelings are ones I can articulate. However, when it comes to actually asking for help, I falter, even as I silently plead for someone to rescue me. When I say, “I’m drained. I didn’t sleep at all last night,” it’s true. I lie awake through the night, my body tense and sweating. I try to find relief through deep breathing, and while it sometimes helps, the moment I lay back down, my thoughts race uncontrollably, leaving me fatigued and desperate for sleep to erase my fears.
“I’ve been feeling nauseous again.” My anxiety has reached a point where it manifests physically, churning my stomach constantly.
“I just need a night out with friends.” I crave an opportunity to share my irrational thoughts over some snacks and soda. Yet, when I receive the all-too-familiar response of “Let me know if you need anything,” I feel tears welling up. Inside, I’m shouting, “I am asking! This is my plea for help!”
What I text back is simply “Thank you, I will.” After all, you have your own responsibilities, and the last thing I want is to add guilt to my already heavy heart. I know I can be difficult to handle, and it often feels like my struggles don’t make sense.
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In summary, articulating anxiety can often feel like a daunting task. While I can describe my experiences, seeking help remains a challenging hurdle. It’s crucial to remember that asking for support is a valid and necessary step.