In recent years, a troubling trend has emerged in parenting circles that warrants serious attention. As a mother myself, I have observed this phenomenon take root among many parents—an attitude that is not only unsettling but also infuriating. Parents often wear their beliefs like a badge of honor, claiming to be progressive and open-minded. However, they are misguided.
The notion of colorblindness, often touted as a way to combat racism, actually perpetuates it. Two years ago, while waiting for my daughter’s preschool class to be released, I overheard a little boy excitedly exclaim, “Mom! There are brown kids in my class! Three brown kids!” His mother’s reaction was swift and harsh; she shushed him, her eyes scanning the surroundings to see if anyone had overheard. The boy was left bewildered, unsure why his innocent observation elicited such a response.
Later that year, after attending a Christmas Eve church service, my family and I decided to dine at a nearly empty restaurant. As we settled at our table, a young girl, probably around five years old, approached us curiously. She looked at my two-year-old and the newborn in my arms with wide eyes and asked, “Are those your kids?” When I confirmed, her parents, who were seated nearby, seemed startled and did nothing to guide their daughter back.
I sensed she had more questions, so I took the opportunity to explain, “My kids are adopted. Do you know what adopted means?” She listened intently, and I elaborated that they came from another mother who couldn’t care for them, and now we are their family. When she asked if they saw their other mommies, I affirmed that we did.
Instances like these have occurred repeatedly. A little boy at the playground questioned how I could be the mother of my children, noting our differing skin colors. A cashier, puzzled by my caramel-skinned son, asked if he was mine. These children are hungry for truth and understanding, yet many parents choose to ignore, silence, or avoid their inquiries.
It is crucial for parents to recognize that dismissing a child’s observations about race or evading their questions does more harm than good. Children are perceptive; they can sense when adults are not being truthful. Avoidance breeds distrust and confusion, which undermines healthy relationships.
When parents advocate for colorblindness instead of engaging in honest discussions about race, they diminish a vital aspect of their children’s identities. They also deny their children the opportunity to understand, appreciate, and celebrate differences.
Next time your child points out a family that doesn’t look the same, or expresses excitement over a friend who appears different, take a moment. Breathe deeply, sit down, and share the truth with them. For additional insights on this topic, you may also find valuable information at this blog post, and this resource offers authoritative guidance on related matters. Furthermore, Rmany provides excellent resources for pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, fostering a child’s understanding of race requires openness and honesty. Ignoring or suppressing their natural curiosity only confuses them and hinders their ability to embrace diversity.