As January marks the 45th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the pivotal Supreme Court ruling that legalized abortion across the United States, it’s essential to reflect on the ongoing debates surrounding this issue. Abortion remains a contentious subject, but it is an experience that affects approximately 1 in 4 women in the U.S.—and I am one of them.
In December 2012, I entered into marriage with Thomas, a man I had been seeing for several years. From the outset, I had lingering doubts about building a life with him; he exhibited patterns of abusive and erratic behavior, making him an unsuitable partner for raising a family. Although I should have reconsidered the marriage, the complexities of leaving an abusive relationship proved daunting, given our intertwined finances and social circles. Ultimately, I found myself married, despite my reservations.
Shortly after our wedding, I began to feel unwell and, thinking it might just be a cold, I turned to the internet for answers. To my surprise, every search result pointed toward pregnancy. Confused, I rummaged through the bathroom cabinet and found an old pregnancy test. When the result came back positive, a wave of clarity washed over me—I knew I needed to have an abortion.
The decision was straightforward. I was not in a position to raise a child, financially or emotionally, especially not with my new husband. My job, while stable, did not offer maternity leave, and there was no way to manage daycare costs without sacrificing half our income. I called the abortion clinic with a clear sense of purpose.
The procedure itself was quick and painless. Upon returning home, I experienced no regret, only a profound sense of relief and gratitude. I was fortunate to have access to a reputable abortion provider and health insurance that covered the procedure. Many individuals, however, face much harsher realities when seeking abortions.
Since the Roe decision, over 1,100 restrictions on abortion care have been enacted across various states, with more than 30% of these laws introduced in just the last eight years. These restrictions often include mandatory waiting periods and bans on abortions after specific gestational limits, further complicating access to necessary care. In my home state of Ohio, the number of clinics has drastically declined, leaving wide swathes of the population without access to abortion services. Every new legislative hurdle feels like a personal affront, a direct attack on the right to choose.
In the wake of my abortion, my marriage disintegrated, as I had anticipated. A year later, I was able to leave without the financial burden of legal fees, as we had no children or shared property. Fortunately, I quickly regained my footing, secured a rewarding job, and eventually remarried. Just five months ago, I welcomed my first child. The experience of motherhood has been fulfilling, occurring on my own terms. I cherish my son, and each day I find myself thankful for the decision I made to terminate that pregnancy.
Had I been compelled to carry that pregnancy to term, my life would have taken a drastically different trajectory. I might have remained in an abusive relationship, my career could have stagnated, and I would have faced the overwhelming challenge of raising a child in an unstable environment. The implications of forced parenthood would have been dire for all involved.
If I had lived in states with more stringent laws regarding abortion, I might have faced insurmountable barriers to accessing care. The simple 15-minute journey to the clinic could have turned into a lengthy and costly expedition. Without comprehensive health insurance, the financial strain of the procedure could have forced me to make impossible choices. I was fortunate, but many are not.
For nearly half a century, women like me have depended on the right to determine if and when to become parents. It is crucial that we continue to safeguard Roe v. Wade for future generations and work to dismantle the state laws that undermine this fundamental right.
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In summary, my journey through marriage, an abortion, and eventual motherhood has shaped my understanding of autonomy and gratitude. As we continue to advocate for reproductive rights, it’s vital to remember the personal stories behind the statistics.