After 42 long minutes of my kids dragging their feet, complaining about school, and running back inside for forgotten lunches, I realized we were going to be late. Again. With keys in hand and my anxiety escalating, I sat stiffly in the driver’s seat, waiting for the last one to tumble into the car. Teeth clenched, I backed out of the driveway without uttering a word.
As a mother of three, with two school drop-offs to manage, even a minute’s delay can throw everything off course. When I say “we,” I mean “me.” Sure, my kids might feel embarrassed bringing a tardy slip to class, but after they hand it to their teacher, they can settle in. For me, being late has a ripple effect: I miss doctor’s appointments, I keep friends waiting, I arrive late to meetings with potential collaborators, and I skip exercise classes. My meticulously organized schedule unravels, leaving me scrambling for the rest of the day.
I operate on tight margins. Don’t we all?
So when a white SUV pulled out in front of me on the narrow residential street and drove well below the 25 mph speed limit, I lost it. With the kids in the car, I restrained my cursing but pounded the steering wheel while semi-yelling in a not-so-friendly tone, “What is going on with this guy?! Why is he driving so slowly? He’s making us LATE!” I flashed my high beams and engaged in that passive-aggressive stop/start driving (I know, so rude). After a minute of this, he finally pulled over, and I naively thought he was letting me pass.
Instead, he exited his vehicle and approached my car, forcing me to halt. He appeared to be in his early sixties, dressed casually, and he didn’t look pleased.
What do you do when a disgruntled driver confronts you? When he tapped on my window, a scowl etched on his face, adrenaline surged through me. Who did this man—obviously on a leisurely drive—think he was? Didn’t he notice the speed limit? Whatever he was about to say, I was ready to retort.
I took a deep breath, summoned my best “resting bitch face,” and rolled down the window. “What are you in such a hurry for?” he yelled, his voice thick with irritation. “You’re driving way too closely! You need to slow down!”
Those last five words struck me like a ton of bricks.
I opened my mouth, but no words came. I wanted to defend myself, to shout back that he was the one driving too slowly—dangerously so, considering he had pulled into moving traffic. But I couldn’t, because I knew he was right.
From the moment I wake up, I feel like I’m constantly behind. So much seems out of my control—how quickly the kids will get ready, their moods, and sometimes even my own reactions. I rush around the house, tense and demanding, trying to reclaim lost time. Most mornings end with yelling or tears. My heart races, my brow furrows, and my smile is scarce.
“You need to slow down.”
All day, I flit from one task to another—hunting, gathering, prepping, working—squeezing in one more call or errand before I pick up the kids, start dinner, and manage homework and bedtime. This, I tell myself, is motherhood, and I’ll be damned if I’m not doing my best.
But I can’t keep up this pace anymore. It’s draining. It’s disheartening. It’s making me irritable.
When this stranger’s words floated through my open window, everything slowed down. I began to cry—not an ugly sob, but enough that I kept my sunglasses on. I wasn’t going anywhere, and it felt like a relief.
“You’re right,” I admitted. “I’m running late, and that isn’t fair to you. I’m sorry.”
And I genuinely meant it. I regretted rattling him and causing his anger. I regretted the mornings spent yelling at my kids and stressing them out. I regretted allowing busyness to overshadow simply being present. Mostly, I regretted not realizing how much I was missing in my rush to accomplish everything, neglecting my own well-being during these demanding days of motherhood.
The man stood there, arms crossed, unsure of how to react. I waited.
“Just take your time,” he finally said, his voice softened. Then he hurried back to his car and drove off.
I lingered for a moment, my heart racing, tears streaming down my cheeks.
“Is that man mad at you, Mommy?” asked my youngest daughter from her booster seat.
“Not really,” I replied, choosing to lie. “He was just frustrated because I was driving too close to him when I shouldn’t have.”
“Are we going to be late?” she asked.
“Yep, we are definitely going to be late,” I said. “But thankfully, we’re not really in a rush anymore.”
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Summary:
This narrative captures a moment of reflection when a mother, overwhelmed by her chaotic routine, is confronted by a stranger urging her to slow down. The interaction leads her to recognize the toll of her hurried lifestyle on herself and her family, highlighting the importance of mindfulness and presence in parenting.