Feet first—an unceremonious plunge.
With a deafening splash, she submerges into the depths.
Bubbles encircle her head, rising to the surface as if pleading for rescue.
The cool blue water envelops her, drenching her hair and spirit.
She wonders if this is her fate.
The overwhelming sensation of being submerged is accompanied by faint whispers of self-doubt and unspoken accusations:
“She could be more successful. She’s not a good parent. She’ll never manage it all. She needs to be stricter with her children. She’s taking on too much. Her home needs to be cleaner. She should shed some weight. She isn’t worthy of motherhood…”
These thoughts drag her deeper into despair.
What caused her abrupt free fall?
Was it her rigid, traditional view of motherhood?
The judgment she faced online for her choice to vaccinate her children?
Or perhaps it was the weekly gatherings with other mothers, where many flaunted their authoritarian control over their homes and children?
In true Stepford fashion, the subtle criticisms from fellow mothers nudged her towards the edge.
And now, she finds herself drowning.
Drowning in the chasm between the illusion of perfection and the reality of life.
She’s the mother juggling two jobs to make ends meet, yet feels a gnawing guilt for being away from her children.
She’s the mother burdened by fears for her children’s safety, grappling with her own unresolved pain.
She’s the mother who struggles with school projects and whose culinary skills are questionable, yet overlooks the many things she excels at.
She’s the mother of a child with special needs, who often blames herself for their challenges.
She’s the mother whose child just had a meltdown in public, garnering unwanted attention.
She’s the mother glued to the news, terrified of sending her child to school, fearing they may not return home safely.
She is submerged in her guilt and uncertainty, longing for a lifeline of kindness.
Reach out to her with less judgment (if her child is crying, offer assistance rather than just observing).
Support her well-considered and lengthy decision to homeschool or to forgo vaccinations (disagree if necessary, but do so with kindness).
Acknowledge her nonverbal child with a warm greeting.
Encourage her for prioritizing quality time with her children over maintaining a pristine home.
Uplift her if she aspires to pursue a career.
Support her if she chooses to stay home.
Organic or non-organic, breast or bottle, homeschooling or private schooling, vegetables or fast food—every choice she makes is hers.
Support her in her motherhood journey because she loves her kids deeply. She is trying just as hard as you are. Her ultimate goal mirrors yours: raising happy and successful children.
If you see her overwhelmed by the weight of parenting, societal judgments, or the trials of life…
If you witness her being criticized online or doubting her parenting capabilities…
Promise to extend your hand, uplift her, and ensure she doesn’t drown.
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Summary:
This article highlights the struggles many mothers face, including societal pressures, self-doubt, and the emotional burdens of parenting. It emphasizes the importance of kindness and support within the community, urging readers to lend a helping hand to mothers who may feel overwhelmed and isolated.