Before I became a mother, I was all about pursuing pleasure. Yes, I’m talking about the exhilarating kind of pleasure that comes from authentic, uninhibited intimacy. For those who might be shocked, I’m referring to a bold, passionate, scream-into-the-pillow ORGASM. I loved the thrill of sex.
In my carefree days, I was vibrant and open to casual encounters if the chemistry was right, and it was all about my own enjoyment. Ironically, my partner was intended to be just a fleeting one-night stand. Yet, here we are, six years and five kids later, having spent every day together since that initial meeting.
Are you taken aback that we’re still together, or that I chose to commit to someone I once viewed as a temporary fling? You shouldn’t be. My partner understands human desires and recognizes that women experience the same sexual impulses as men do.
There’s no difference between a man having a one-night stand and a woman doing the same. Yet, women often face judgment while men are celebrated. It’s time we shift this outdated perspective in the 21st century. Casual encounters aren’t a sign of losing control; they’re simply a way for consenting adults to enjoy themselves without worrying about societal labels.
If a man truly respects a woman, he won’t demean her for choosing to engage in a night of passion after just one date. Any man who leaves a woman feeling used after consensual intimacy is not worthy of respect. He’s merely objectifying another human being.
And let’s address the troubling phrase “giving up the goods.” This is degrading and entirely misleading about my body and sexuality. My personal experiences should never be reduced to a transaction; I refuse to treat my body like a commodity.
It’s high time we stop shaming women for having human desires. There’s nothing wrong with consensual one-night stands, and the choices made by adults should remain their own. Please refrain from making excuses or casting judgments on our actions; such discussions often lead to mere gossip. Not everything needs to be dissected for hidden meanings.
Let’s also move past the notion of “daddy issues” as a reason for seeking sex. How shallow and misguided! Personally, my thoughts about my father are the last thing on my mind during intimate moments. So let’s stop projecting these stereotypes onto women who are bold enough to pursue what they desire.
Furthermore, the idea that women who engage in casual sex lack self-respect is completely false. We too have sexual urges and are no longer willing to repress them as we have in the past. We enjoy sex, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Newsflash: we are not delicate beings, and sometimes we simply don’t want to wait. We shouldn’t have to. Many of us are not searching for deeper connections; we just want to satisfy our needs, and that’s perfectly fine.
Women have fought against oppression and discrimination throughout history, and we continue to face these challenges today. Please do not impose your misguided judgments on us while we strive to live our lives fully.
A modern woman is no longer required to lead a reserved life. Those days are behind us, and now we are free to embrace who we choose to be and enjoy the intimacy we desire.
Even if my initial encounter with my partner hadn’t blossomed into a lasting relationship, it wouldn’t be wrong. I’ve had other one-night stands in my life, and I don’t regret them. My partner knows about my sexual history and has never shamed me for my past. I lived life as a single woman, reveling in my sexuality, and I stand by that.
In summary, let’s embrace the idea that casual encounters can be fulfilling. Women should not be judged for their choices in love and intimacy. Life is too short to live in shame or regret.