Believe it or not, I am genuinely anticipating my third and final C-section. While major abdominal surgery isn’t typically something people look forward to, I find myself in that position.
Before you assume I’ve lost my mind, let me explain. Having gone through two C-sections already, I am well-acquainted with the process. I know there will be anxiety, discomfort, and challenging recovery days ahead. However, my C-section is necessary. My first was an emergency classical C-section to save my son, who faced distress after 40 hours of labor. Women like me face a high risk of uterine rupture during labor, which makes vaginal delivery impossible. Even the most holistic midwives wouldn’t recommend a VBAC for someone with my history. (I know this because I consulted with Dr. Lisa Hartman herself.)
My second C-section was scheduled, and it was a surprisingly pleasant experience. Honestly! It helped me begin to heal from the trauma of my first birth, and the physical experience was quite smooth. The nursing staff kept my pain managed; I didn’t experience any discomfort until the day after the surgery, and after that, it was minimal. I didn’t even need prescription pain medication once I returned home. Although my baby had some nursing challenges, if not for that, my entire hospital stay would have been truly enjoyable.
As I prepare for this next journey, here are four perks I’m looking forward to:
- I can create a solid plan for my older children. I thrive on planning. While I can be spontaneous in some areas, major life events aren’t one of them. Through experience, I’ve learned that having a plan significantly eases my anxiety. Although my boys won’t be able to visit the hospital during the procedure, I can’t wait to see them as soon as I return to my room. Knowing the exact date and time of my baby’s arrival weeks ahead allows me to organize help from family and friends, making everything smoother for everyone involved.
- I’ll be well-rested for my baby’s arrival. During my first C-section, I was so exhausted that the anesthesiologist had to wake me right in time for the birth. It was not a great feeling. However, for my second, I arrived at the hospital feeling refreshed and ready. This time, I plan to walk into the delivery room after a full night’s sleep, without the usual stress.
- I’ll have a few blissful nights in the hospital with no daily responsibilities. Sure, I’ll be caring for a newborn, but I won’t have to deal with cooking, cleaning, or mediating sibling disputes. The focus will be solely on snuggling my baby and recovering. When my older kids visit, I’ll simply get to enjoy their company, with someone else handling meals and errands. It’s a wonderful chance to bond with my little ones without the usual chores.
- I can enjoy restful nights in the hospital. Many mothers who deliver vaginally only get one night in the hospital, which seems unfair! After my first C-section, I was fortunate to stay for four nights, and three nights for my second. Rooming in with my baby sounds great, but I learned during my first experience that I don’t sleep well. So, for my second child, I opted to send him to the nursery for part of the night, which I believe helped my recovery. Sleep is crucial after major surgery, and knowing my baby is in capable hands allows me to recharge.
With my third C-section approaching, I feel seasoned and confident. I’m aware of what to expect, both during and after the procedure. While I could dwell on potential complications, I choose instead to stay optimistic and focus on the benefits of my scheduled delivery. Every birth is unique, and viewing mine with gratitude makes me even more excited to welcome my new baby.
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Summary
Anticipating my third C-section, I reflect on the advantages it brings: the ability to plan for my older children, the opportunity to be well-rested, a break from daily responsibilities, and the chance to enjoy restful nights in the hospital. By focusing on the positive aspects and being grateful, I look forward to welcoming my new baby.