As we approach the final days of distance learning, my family is preparing to transition from the school year to summer. However, we have no intention of abandoning our established quarantine routine. While the idea of a carefree summer where my children entertain themselves for three months sounds appealing, I recognize that’s unlikely to happen.
Our current routine is effective and beneficial for both my kids and me. Why alter something that works simply because school is out? After all, if it’s not broken, why fix it? It took considerable effort to create a balanced schedule, and I invested time teaching my children what was expected of them and when. There’s no way I’m going to disrupt this well-functioning system just because of warmer weather.
The day before schools closed, I meticulously outlined a detailed plan for each child, although it turned out to be overly ambitious. Within days of starting e-learning, I quickly realized our routine needed simplification while still being effective. We found a necessary balance, understanding that children—and parents like myself who experience anxiety—thrive on routine and predictability.
With four children, our family faces a choice: embrace chaos or establish a routine. There’s no middle ground. I want my children to glance at the schedule I’ve posted on the pantry door and follow it with minimal assistance. I wasn’t interested in running a boot camp; instead, I wanted them to take ownership of their responsibilities.
After two months of adjustment, our routine is now a success. Each morning starts with breakfast, brushing teeth, and getting dressed, followed by schoolwork. This summer, we’ll transition from school assignments to practicing essential skills. After a short study session, we enjoy “recess,” riding bikes and playing basketball, often accompanied by popsicles.
Once we’ve had enough physical activity, we return inside for chores. Yes, my children are responsible for chores—two tasks each day, also posted on the pantry door. This approach teaches responsibility and teamwork; I can’t do everything, nor should I.
If time permits, we squeeze in a bit more academic work before lunch. After clearing the table, we have another “recess,” acknowledging that too much sitting can lead to irritability. Following this break, we dedicate half an hour to reading. With library visits off the table, my children have begun swapping books, which has fostered a love for reading in them and even prompted me to join them on the couch.
Next, we tackle another chore and complete schoolwork before afternoon snacks. My kids have hearty appetites, so I ensure meal and snack times are structured. After snacking, it’s time for another recess—this summer, it’ll involve water play. When the heat becomes overwhelming, we’ll resort to yoga or dance videos.
By late afternoon, my children are usually showered and in pajamas, winding down by 4:30 or 5:00 PM. Only after completing their daily chores do they earn screen time, a system they surprisingly enjoy. They know exactly when and how they can earn it. Meanwhile, my husband and I prepare dinner as our kids unwind.
While I might envy the whims of spontaneous mothers, managing four children, some with special needs, requires a structured approach. A predictable routine provides the stability we all need, especially as summer activities are limited. We’ve had two months to adjust, preparing us for the longer summer ahead.
Despite our routine, sibling squabbles, snack complaints, and my quest for personal time will persist. Our schedule isn’t a cure-all, but it certainly helps. The challenges posed by the ongoing COVID-19 situation are significant, yet we’re striving to make the best of our circumstances. The alternative—living in chaos—offers no happiness. Our quarantine routine has given us the stability we need to thrive.
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In summary, maintaining a routine during summer provides structure and predictability for our family, fostering a sense of stability amidst external uncertainties.