Parenting
By Jamie Taylor
November 15, 2020
Traumatic childbirth experiences are far more prevalent than many people realize. While no labor is truly “easy,” numerous mothers grapple with the aftermath of their deliveries. According to findings from the Prevention and Treatment of Traumatic Childbirth (PATTCH), between 25% and 34% of women describe their birthing experiences as traumatic.
In our recent confessional, many mothers sought a platform to express their feelings and share their personal stories of distress during childbirth. Some accounts were harrowing, while others highlighted feelings of neglect or lack of support from healthcare professionals.
“It’s been over seven years, but I still want to shout a big ‘screw you’ to the nurse who told me, ‘don’t scream,’ and an even bigger one to the doctor who messed up my epidural,” shared one mom.
Another mother reflected on her conflicting emotions: “Part of me desires a second child, but I know I can’t face another life-threatening labor, especially with so little help during recovery and almost no maternity leave.”
Many mothers recounted serious physical repercussions, such as severe tearing, and how these experiences affected their mental health. One mother expressed, “I had a fourth-degree tear with my first child and deal with incontinence issues. Labor was traumatic, and my husband wants another baby. No way! I’ll divorce you before I go through that again!”
The struggle for self-advocacy during labor is a common theme. Many parents feel that healthcare providers can become desensitized to the fears and struggles faced by those in labor. One woman stated, “I always supported the right to choose, but after experiencing PTSD from my delivery, I feel even stronger about it. Adoption wouldn’t erase the trauma I went through.”
The emotional toll can be overwhelming. One mother confessed, “I love my kids more than anything, but I resent everything I endured to bring them into this world. I wish I could have adopted them instead.”
Another shared, “My labor was natural, and I tore badly. Seeing pregnant women brings back weird feelings. I just hope they experience something different than I did.”
PATTCH defines a traumatic birth as one where the mother, father, or any witness feels that the mother’s or baby’s life was in jeopardy, or if there was a significant threat to their physical or emotional well-being. Unfortunately, some individuals may develop Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as a consequence of their experiences.
With the U.S. maternal mortality rate being the highest among developed nations and increasing pregnancy-related complications, there is a pressing need for improvements in maternity care. One mother shared her fear, “I think I still have PTSD from my terrible childbirth experience, and it’s been two years.”
Others echoed similar sentiments, expressing fears about future pregnancies. One mother revealed, “I’m pregnant again, but the fear of dying in childbirth haunts me.”
Despite what some may think, her decision to limit family size isn’t rooted in vanity; rather, she fears the possibility of complications. “I’ve always had this gut feeling that I won’t survive childbirth,” she said.
Perhaps if medical professionals and lawmakers paid more attention to these mothers’ experiences, they would feel safer expressing their concerns instead of relying solely on informal confessions.
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Summary
Many mothers experience trauma during childbirth, with significant emotional and physical repercussions. These experiences often lead to feelings of fear, resentment, and trauma, emphasizing the need for better maternal care in the U.S.