Another day brings forth fresh revelations about the troubling behavior of individuals associated with “The Bachelor” franchise. This time, it’s former contestant Taylor Nolan, who has been called out for a history of racism, homophobia, transphobia, fat-shaming, and more. When I first came across her old tweets on social media, I was hit with a wave of nausea and anger.
What makes this situation particularly complex is that Nolan identifies as biracial, with both Black and white heritage. As a fellow Black biracial person, I can’t help but feel disheartened by her actions that perpetuate harmful stereotypes. Adding to the disappointment is her role as a mental health counselor, making her remarks about mental health and suicide even more alarming.
Nolan has positioned herself as a vocal advocate for anti-racism, which has drawn criticism towards others in the franchise, yet her own problematic past contradicts her current stance. This disconnect is frustrating, especially given her profession.
While I acknowledge that people can evolve, Nolan’s recent responses to the backlash have been lackluster at best. Her attempts at apologies have been muddled and self-centered, failing to take full accountability for her actions. She mentions her internalized racism as a reason for her past behavior but neglects to understand that such internal struggles do not excuse harmful actions. Just because her tweets are old does not mean they were acceptable at the time; racism is always wrong, no matter the year.
In her various apologies, whether through a hasty video or a note on her phone, she shifts focus to her feelings and the racists who exposed her, rather than addressing the harm she has caused. The fact that these tweets were available for discovery is a reflection of her own choices.
If we are to have no tolerance for bigotry in “Bachelor Nation,” it must also include the behavior of individuals from marginalized backgrounds. It is hypocritical to advocate for one group’s liberation while participating in the oppression of others. While it’s likely that Nolan has changed since her past actions, her defensive responses indicate that she still has much to learn.
At a time when marginalized communities face increasing threats, Nolan could use her past as a platform for meaningful change. Regrettably, her apologies have not demonstrated the humility or courage needed. In fact, Rachael Kirkconnell has shown more genuine remorse for her own past missteps.
Given Nolan’s previous social justice efforts, real accountability would involve donating to organizations that support the communities she has disparaged.
Moving forward, it’s clear that everyone involved—Chris Harrison, Rachael Kirkconnell, and Taylor Nolan—needs rigorous education on accountability. Their commitment to understanding the impact of their words and actions should not be limited to moments of public scrutiny.
Nolan has asked for the same grace that others have received, but I believe that accountability must come before grace, especially when considering the disparities in how Black and white individuals receive public empathy. The treatment of Rachel Lindsay serves as a stark reminder of the double standards present in these conversations.
Ultimately, I envision a future for “The Bachelor” franchise that genuinely embraces diversity and inclusivity. We need contestants that reflect a range of identities and experiences, moving away from outdated tropes and towards authentic connections. This change is not just necessary; it’s long overdue.
For those who may be struggling with thoughts of self-harm, please reach out to a crisis line or mental health professional.