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By Jenna Morgan
Updated: April 7, 2021
Originally Published: April 7, 2021
Navigating the dating world as an adult can be incredibly challenging. As teenagers, dating often happened seamlessly within friend groups or through casual acquaintances. You might meet someone at school, summer camp, or a party—everything felt relaxed and low-pressure. Fast forward to adulthood, and it’s like we’re all running around like headless chickens trying to find someone to guide us through the chaotic journey of dating, reminiscent of navigating Rainbow Road in Mario Kart.
When I re-entered the dating scene, I felt utterly bewildered. How do you sum up your entire personality in just a few sentences for a dating app? And seriously, who has five pictures of themselves that look good? The pressure to present myself as “interesting” felt overwhelming and made me rethink what I wanted from dating altogether.
In the “real world,” when you meet someone, you tend to focus less on finding the “perfect” partner and more on whether your energies align. But online, it often feels like trying on clothes—you assess compatibility before you even get to see if there’s that natural chemistry. If something doesn’t click, it’s easy to just swipe to the next option.
When I started using dating apps, I noticed that many people my age had complex histories. It wasn’t just about guys having exes anymore; some had ex-wives and kids. I had always maintained the stance that I wouldn’t date anyone with children. It was one of those “rules” I thought would keep my dating life drama-free. I love kids, but the idea of dealing with “crazy baby mamas” or stepping into the role of a stepmother was daunting. I feared I wouldn’t be “good enough” and that dating someone with kids would complicate my life.
Then, I matched with a guy named Mark on Hinge. After chatting for a while, I gave him my number. His profile didn’t feature any pictures with kids, nor had he mentioned any during our conversations. Our connection was immediate—we texted regularly, sharing jokes, stories, and bonding over mutual interests like Pop Punk music. After a month, we finally went on a date.
I’ve never been one to believe in love at first sight, but when I met Mark, everything just clicked. It felt like the universe had aligned in my favor. After dinner, while getting coffee, I spotted a tattoo on his arm with a name. Playfully, I asked if it belonged to another girl. It turned out to be his daughter’s name. Suddenly, alarms were ringing in my head. All this chemistry and connection, and now I learn he has a child? A flood of questions rushed through my mind: What about his ex? What if this was too much too soon?
I won’t lie; I hesitated. I always insisted that kids complicated relationships, introducing a third party into what should be a simple connection. Here I was, contemplating dating someone who came with a child. Yet, despite my reservations, a part of me urged me to take the leap. Trust the vibe. Embrace the possibility of love.
Fast forward two years later, and that leap of faith was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Dating Mark and becoming part of his daughter’s life has transformed me for the better. It has taught me that life often unfolds differently than we expect, and the challenges I feared have fostered growth. His daughter, a vibrant six-year-old, has brought immense joy and wisdom into my life, helping me become more patient, empathetic, and thoughtful.
Our little family of three has created a world filled with laughter, inside jokes, and adventures. Watching Mark be an incredible father deepens my love for him. I once doubted whether I could handle dating someone with kids, but I now realize that this journey has enriched my life in ways I never imagined.
I may have entered this relationship with trepidation, but I wouldn’t change a thing. Embracing the complexities of dating someone with a child has been rewarding beyond measure.
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In summary, letting go of my preconceived notions about dating someone with kids has opened my heart and mind to a richer, more fulfilling experience than I ever imagined possible.