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Got a Tween or Teen in Your Home? Preparing for Their First Period
Navigating this significant milestone can feel daunting, but with the right guidance, you can help your child through it.
By Jamie Carter
Updated: June 6, 2022
Originally Published: June 23, 2021
You likely have vivid memories of your own first period, which was a life-altering event (let’s face it, cramps and stains, anyone?). Now, as you prepare your tween or teen for their first period, you might feel overwhelmed, as if that knowledge has slipped away. But don’t worry — helping someone else through the complexities of menstruation can be a different yet rewarding experience.
First, let’s clarify what menstruation is. Each month, when the menstrual cycle begins, estrogen levels rise, causing the uterus lining to thicken in anticipation of a fertilized egg. If no egg arrives, the lining sheds and exits the body as menstrual blood, which is a mix of blood and uterine tissue. Menstruation signals that a person is nearing the end of puberty and is physically capable of reproduction. It’s crucial to discuss that while they may be physically capable, that doesn’t mean they are emotionally or financially ready for pregnancy.
We’re here to guide you through menstruation and all its intricacies. You can read this together with your child, share it via text for them to explore independently, or simply refer to it as a resource. Remember, periods are entirely normal and shouldn’t be a source of fear or shame. Understanding the bodily changes will make discussions easier for both of you.
So how can you assist your child as they embark on this journey?
What’s a First Period Called?
First periods have a special name: menarche! It comes from the Greek terms ‘menos’ (month) and ‘arkhē’ (beginning).
What Are the Symptoms of a First Period?
Some tweens or teens may not notice any symptoms before their first period, while others may experience premenstrual syndrome (PMS) in the days leading up to it. PMS can include symptoms like bloating, breast tenderness, acne, back pain, fatigue, mood swings, food cravings, and discharge. Yes, the joys of growing up!
When Do Tweens/Teens Usually Get Their First Period?
The timing of a first period varies, but the average age is between 12 and 13. According to Dr. Sarah Bennett, a pediatrician with Health Associates, most individuals get their period about two to two and a half years after they first show signs of puberty. Common indicators include breast development and pubic hair. A period is considered early if it begins before age eight and late if it hasn’t started by age 16.
Why Did My Child Get Their Period So Early?
Every child develops at their own pace, so there’s no set timeline for when someone should get their period. Factors such as weight and activity level can influence the onset of menstruation. Some may start between ages 11 to 14, while others as young as nine. In cases of precocious puberty, periods may begin even earlier.
How Long Does a First Period Last?
This varies from person to person, but a first period may only last a couple of days. Often, initial periods are light and may consist of reddish-brown spotting. Hormonal fluctuations can cause irregular cycles initially, but once stabilized, the average period lasts from four to seven days. Dr. Bennett notes that many early periods may not be ovulatory, so prolonged bleeding isn’t uncommon.
How Long After Pubic Hair Grows Does the First Period Start?
Everyone’s body timeline is unique. However, the appearance of pubic hair usually occurs shortly after breast development, and the first period typically follows about a year or two later.
What Is a Normal Period for a Teenager?
The average menstrual cycle spans about 28 days, but cycles can range from 21 to 45 days. Most periods last under seven days. Dr. Bennett emphasizes that variations in cycle length and flow are normal. Some teens may experience heavy periods, while others may have only a couple each year during their initial menstruating years.
Managing periods can be uncomfortable, often involving cramps and aches. If your child experiences severe pain that keeps them bedridden, consult a healthcare professional to rule out any serious issues.
Is It Normal for a Tween or Teen to Have a Light Period?
A light period can be normal, especially early on, but it’s also worth monitoring. Athletes or individuals with low body weight may experience a complete halt in menstruation, which can have long-term health implications. If your child notices significant changes in their menstrual flow, it’s wise to schedule a visit with a healthcare provider.
How Can I Help My Teen Through Their First Period?
The first period is a significant milestone but can also be uncomfortable. Here are ways to support your child:
- Apply a heating pad on their back or abdomen.
- Offer a gentle lower-back massage.
- Provide over-the-counter pain relief like naproxen or acetaminophen.
- Prepare a warm bath to help relax their muscles.
Can a Person Get Pregnant Once They Start Menstruating?
If your child asks this, it’s essential to clarify that yes, pregnancy is possible once menstruation begins. Surprisingly, a person can even conceive before their first period if they ovulate. The only reliable way to prevent pregnancy (and STDs) is through abstinence. For effective birth control, consider methods like condoms or hormonal options.
If you’re a teen and suspect pregnancy, confide in a trusted adult or healthcare provider. Be cautious when seeking advice from crisis centers, as not all offer unbiased guidance. Remember, there are supportive people ready to help.
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Summary
Helping your tween or teen navigate their first period can be a significant journey. Understanding menstruation from the biological aspects to the emotional ones can ease this transition. Providing support, knowledge, and resources can make a world of difference for your child as they embark on this new phase of life.