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By: Emily Johnson
Updated: Jan. 7, 2022
Originally Published: Jan. 7, 2022
At 21, I tied the knot and immediately embarked on the journey of motherhood. After six years, I welcomed my first child, followed by a second three years later, and finally, a third four years after that. For a span of 15 years, from ages 21 to 36, I was consumed by the “baby phase”—either pregnant, nursing, or trying to conceive.
Those were my formative years. Had I chosen a different path, I might have spent that time enjoying life or focusing more on myself. Instead, I devoted those years to ovulation tests, cycle tracking, fertility treatments, and primarily nurturing my family. I don’t regret a thing; I believe I was destined to be a mother. The love I have for my three children is unparalleled.
But they’re not babies anymore. My youngest is now two years old. She weaned a few months back, and my body is finally my own again. For the first time since I was 21, I’m not nurturing a newborn nor preparing to do so. With my tubes tied, I’ve officially closed the chapter on the baby phase. While there’s a hint of nostalgia, there’s also something else: freedom and time.
Now that I’ve stepped out of the baby phase, it’s time to prioritize me. I’m focusing on aspects of my life that I had set aside during those early motherhood years. As my children grow more independent, I feel it’s only fair to rediscover who I am outside of being their caregiver. They deserve a mom who knows herself beyond motherhood, allowing them the space to explore their own identities too.
My first act of self-care was to undergo a panniculectomy, a procedure aimed at removing excess skin and fat from my lower abdomen. As soon as my last child weaned, I began the process for insurance approval and had the surgery a few months ago. Though I still consider myself plus-size, I feel much happier in my body. My mobility has improved, shopping for clothes has become enjoyable again, and I feel more vibrant and confident than I have in years. The burden of an apron belly was heavier on my heart than I realized.
This surgery has illuminated how I’ve been living in the shadows during my baby phase. While it felt instinctive to prioritize my children, I hadn’t truly acknowledged how much I neglected my own needs. My kids have everything they need, and I’m learning that it’s not selfish to reclaim my place in my own life.
For me, this “Me Phase” involves regular nail appointments, quality time with friends, investing in skincare, and indulging in late-night crafting sessions. I can enjoy guilt-free date nights without a nursing baby at home.
With three years until I hit 40, I’m committed to maximizing this time. I want to engage in activities that bring me joy and provide a sense of purpose that extends beyond motherhood. When I celebrate my 40th birthday, I want to confidently declare that I take good care of everyone I love—including myself.
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In summary, I’ve transitioned from the baby phase to a phase of self-discovery and empowerment. It’s a time to focus on my well-being while still cherishing my role as a mother.