Overcoming Parental Guilt: Investing in Yourself

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Parenting undoubtedly comes with financial burdens. The costs associated with raising children often take parents by surprise, leading to feelings of regret and questioning life choices. One might ponder, “What would my life look like without kids? Perhaps I’d be swimming in cash!”

If I didn’t have two children, I might consider living in my parents’ shed, saving my earnings for future endeavors—be it a run for office or a whimsical film production about ferrets. The possibilities would be endless! However, the reality is that I have children who require essential needs such as food, shelter, clothing, healthcare, and education. By the time I fulfill those responsibilities, there’s often little left for personal enjoyment. Furthermore, the obligation to provide for my kids is a lifelong commitment; even beyond my lifetime, they might still be searching for spare change in my pockets!

This understanding drives me to reserve a bit of my earnings for personal indulgences. I don’t feel guilty about spending money on myself. I work hard for my income, and as long as my children have their necessities—like allergy medication or a new toy—whatever remains is mine to enjoy. Here are 13 things I no longer feel guilty about purchasing:

1. Beer: If anyone should feel guilty about my beer purchases, it’s the kids who drive me to drink!
2. Bourbon: Same reason as above.
3. Wine: No guilt here, either.
4. Vodka: It’s for my partner!
5. Shake Shack: Who can resist a good burger?
6. Beer at Shake Shack: I may have a bit of a problem.
7. Movie Tickets: I usually pass on this to avoid the babysitter’s fees—this isn’t guilt, it’s activism!
8. Concert Tickets: Again, babysitter required—no way!
9. Pizza: I worry more about our pizza habit than our alcohol consumption, but I don’t feel guilty.
10. Books: Wait, what?
11. Library Late Fees: More accurate, indeed.
12. Music: A necessity, especially with young kids around!
13. Babysitters: Sometimes, a night out is essential.

As a parent, there’s already an abundance of guilt to manage. Setting aside some funds for the small joys in life is not something to feel remorseful about. I reserve my guilt for more pressing issues, such as a gym membership I never use or movies featuring actors I’m not particularly fond of.

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In summary, while parenting comes with its share of financial and emotional challenges, allowing yourself to enjoy the fruits of your labor is essential. Prioritizing personal joy does not diminish your role as a parent; rather, it enhances your overall well-being.