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Listen and Love: A Parenting Perspective
Parenting is a journey filled with challenges and remarkable moments. As I wade into the cool waters of Lake Tahoe, I feel the chill wrap around me, taking my breath away. I swim a short distance before turning back to find my daughter, Mia, radiating joy as she exclaims, “Mom, this is amazing! I love it!” Her enthusiasm is infectious, and I can’t help but smile as she embraces the moment, arms raised in sheer delight.
As we play along the shoreline, with Mia leading the way, I am struck by the remarkable girl she is becoming. Every so often, she pauses to marvel at the wonders of nature—a fish, a uniquely shaped rock, or a log that resembles an eye. Her joy is unwavering, and it lights up my own heart.
“I love you,” she tells me as we take a breather, and I can feel her sincerity. It melts my heart to witness her adventurous spirit blossoming. I have longed for this day when she could let go of her fears and embrace life wholeheartedly.
For years, I have wrestled with self-doubt about my parenting. The pressure to raise a confident and fearless daughter weighs heavily on me. I worry about her fears—of spiders, heights, and new encounters. Am I a good role model? Am I too strict or not firm enough? Does she feel accepted for who she is?
These thoughts swirl in my mind as I strive to be the best version of myself for her. However, I do not always have the answers.
One evening, as we settle down for bed, Mia grabs my face in her small hands and asks a question that pierces my heart: “Mommy, do you think I’m weird?” Before I can respond, tears stream down her cheeks, and she sobs uncontrollably.
It breaks my heart to hear her, my vibrant, creative, and kind daughter, feel that way. I want to tell her how incredible she truly is and to combat the negativity she perceives. But I realize that what she needs most is for me to listen.
As I hold her, she shares her fears about not fitting in because she prefers dragons over princesses and karate over ballet. “Nobody is ever going to be my best friend,” she sobs again, and I let her pain wash over us.
I gently ask, “Do you like yourself?” After a moment, she responds, “I think so.” I encourage her to reflect on what she appreciates about herself. Slowly, her face brightens as she lists her qualities: her sense of humor, her kindness, and her unique talents.
Mia’s expression shifts as she considers my words and asks, “Do you really like me, Mom? Like, for real?” I assure her that I love her more than she can imagine, and that she is perfect just as she is.
As we end the night with hugs and kisses, her brother joins in, expressing his love for her too. It becomes a beautiful family moment, reinforcing the power of connection and love.
Navigating the challenges of motherhood means allowing my daughter to find her own strength and resilience. She needs to experience her feelings, including sadness, to discover her inner power. I cannot shield her from every hardship; my role is to Listen and Love.
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