Understanding Autism: A Journey of Connection and Community

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One afternoon, my son, Oliver, who is ten years old, made a poignant statement. “Henry has autism,” he declared, referring to his five-year-old brother, Sam, who was distractedly attempting to fit a blueberry in his nose. I turned to Oliver, “I understand why you might think that, but Sam hasn’t been diagnosed with autism.”

“Who else has it? Who else is like me?” he probed.

In that moment, I struggled with how to respond. I could share statistics, explaining that one in fifty-four children is diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder today, implying there are many individuals who may share traits with him. However, I knew that numbers alone wouldn’t resonate with him.

Instead, I highlighted the remarkable aspects of autism—his exceptional memory, his kindness, his determination, and the progress he has made. Yet, despite my efforts, I couldn’t erase the feeling of loneliness that lingered for him, the sense of being the only one diagnosed within our family, his class, or perhaps the entire world.

It was as if I were saying to him: “Oliver, you are a unique unicorn among ordinary horses. You possess beauty and brilliance! We are aware that there are countless others out there—perhaps even a bajillion—but we struggle to connect those dots. And, dear magical unicorn, we often find you perplexing. Your vivid colors dazzle us, but your outbursts can be frightening. Sometimes, we wish you could just be like the rest of us, so we could help you grasp fractions more easily.”

When I began writing my blog, I lacked a defined purpose. Over the years, it has become a platform for me to share my experiences, connect with other parents navigating the complexities of autism and family life. If I could raise a bit of autism awareness along the way, that would be an added benefit. However, I realized I was failing. Despite establishing connections with a broader community, the boy sitting next to me—the one with autism—still felt confused, scared, and ashamed. He felt isolated.

To address this, I reached out to my readers on social media, asking them to help show Oliver that he is not alone; that there are countless others like him who create beautiful music, hold jobs, enjoy movies, and love ice cream after dinner. The response was overwhelming.

“Hi, Oliver! Meet my son, also named Oliver. He has autism and is seven years old. Although his social skills are considered ‘very poor,’ he can light up a room with his presence. You are not alone, my friend.”

“Hello, Oliver! This is my 15-year-old grandson, who also has autism. He is the wonderful unicorn in my life,” another parent shared.

Messages poured in from all over, each filled with love and support. I found comfort in the words shared by others. “I have a son who is 14 and has autism. While I wished for more traditional bonding experiences like playing sports, I have learned to cherish his brilliant mind, sense of humor, and loving nature. My mission is to help him lead the best life possible.”

Old friends reached out, and teachers shared their experiences. “I’ve taught several students with autism, and each one has positively impacted my life,” one educator wrote.

Stories came from families across the globe—“Hi Oliver! I have twins with autism who are 13 years old. One loves swimming and elevators, while the other has a fantastic memory and plays the trombone beautifully.”

One evening, as we dined at our favorite Mexican restaurant, we read a message from a family in the Netherlands. Oliver’s face lit up as he recognized Amsterdam as the capital. “My younger son is autistic. He is eight and loves soccer and Minecraft. He is kind, loving, and brings so much joy,” shared another family from Iceland.

Some individuals bravely shared their own experiences: “I have autism and a successful life. I face challenges, but I’m proud of who I am. Oliver, you are definitely not alone.”

Throughout the week, Oliver eagerly requested my phone to read the comments. Each time, his face brightened with hope. “My beautiful 11-year-old has Autism and ADHD, and she often feels alone, even in a crowd.”

From these stories, it became evident that autism encompasses a diverse range of experiences. It can affect multiple members of a family or be a singular journey. “I have two wonderful boys on the spectrum. Autism is just one part of who they are, like brown eyes or freckles.”

As I sat at my laptop reading through the messages, Oliver hovered beside me, drawn into the stories shared on social media. He paused and exclaimed, “Joe. Cariello. That’s Dad.” I glanced at the screen and saw a heartfelt message from a father, “Hi Oliver. My son has autism, and I have loved you since the day you were born.”

Through this journey, I learned that “bajillion” is not merely a number. It embodies confusion, fear, and the joy of unique individuals. It spans across states and countries, filled with extraordinary stories of resilience and unity. It encompasses both profound struggles and moments of laughter, capturing the essence of living with autism.

Ultimately, a bajillion represents both a vast community and the intimate experiences shared between families. It signifies laughter and connection, even amidst challenges, as siblings navigate the complexities of autism together, finding joy in their unique journey.

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In conclusion, the journey of understanding and embracing autism is not solitary but rather a shared experience that brings families together, fostering connection, support, and love in the face of challenges.