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The Velveteen Parent: Embracing Transformation in Parenthood
As I navigate life with my older children, I often find myself in awe of how they’ve transformed from tiny beings into young adults, complete with long limbs and deepening wisdom. My friends and I share this wonder, recalling the days when they were merely cooing infants with chubby thighs and fine hair. “They’re becoming real,” we whisper, reflecting on how far they’ve come. Their insightful comments and our shared laughter demonstrate their growth, and they no longer fit comfortably beneath our chins.
This year marks a significant milestone for both me and my eldest child, who is now 12, coinciding with my own 40th birthday. Our shared moments, whether it’s a joke in the car or a quiet drive to volleyball practice, make me realize that I too am undergoing a transformation.
The Skin Horse, a wise character from a beloved story, knew the essence of becoming real. He had experienced the wear of time, with a coat showing signs of love and use, just as I bear the marks of my parenting journey. After raising four little ones, my body has changed—my hair has thinned and changed color, my belly shows the signs of nurturing life, and my joints are less forgiving. Yet, these signs of aging are evidence of a life filled with love.
The Skin Horse once said, “Real isn’t how you are made. It’s a thing that happens to you.” I hold onto this truth as I reflect on my parenting experiences. I have cradled a sleeping baby against my chest, endured sleepless nights with a sick child, and celebrated joyous reunions at preschool. Each moment has left an indelible mark on my heart.
“Does it hurt?” asks the Rabbit in the story. “Sometimes,” replies the Skin Horse. The challenges of parenting can indeed be painful—there are slammed doors, harsh words, and moments of helplessness when my children face struggles I cannot solve. Yet, these heartaches also bring magical moments of growth and connection.
The journey to becoming real is gradual. It involves enduring challenges and embracing vulnerability. As parents, we face various hardships—difficult pregnancies, health battles, and the complexities of relationships. We are warriors, aged by experience yet strengthened by love. We grow older alongside our children, learning valuable lessons about resilience and empathy.
In our community, we recognize each other in moments of shared struggle, whether at a pediatrician’s office, a school event, or a sports competition. We understand that the journey of Becoming Real encompasses the joys and sorrows of parenthood. Just as we look to our own parents, we can see the traces of love and experience that have shaped us.
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In conclusion, the process of transformation in parenthood is profound, marked by personal growth, love, and the shared experiences that shape our lives.