Dear Mom,
Perhaps your little one never latched on properly. Maybe the pain was overwhelming and relief felt out of reach. You might have received conflicting advice from various sources—be it hospital staff, family, friends, or any well-meaning individuals. It’s also entirely possible that you simply didn’t feel inclined to breastfeed at all. There may have been circumstances, personal and private, that made the concept of nursing seem daunting or unappealing to you.
It’s possible that despite your best efforts, milk production didn’t happen as you hoped, and the reasons remained a mystery. If you’re an adoptive parent, maybe you chose not to pursue breastfeeding for various reasons. Perhaps you tried every gadget and method available to make it work, only to feel more disconnected from your body and decided to stop. Medical conditions or necessary medications might have prevented you from nursing altogether. The struggles you faced could have weighed heavily on you, leading you to prioritize your mental well-being.
And yes, maybe you simply didn’t enjoy breastfeeding.
You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You don’t have to justify your experience. However, I’m here to listen if you want to share. If you wish to reflect on why breastfeeding didn’t unfold as you envisioned, I’m more than willing to help.
It’s natural to replay scenarios in your mind: If only a lactation consultant had been more available; if only you had sought a second opinion; if only your birth experience had been smoother; if only postpartum depression hadn’t lingered. I want to assure you that if you feel a void because breastfeeding didn’t work out, I completely understand. The instinct to breastfeed is deeply rooted in motherhood, an ancient yearning that can feel particularly traumatic when thwarted. You are not alone in feeling this way.
But perhaps you’ve reached a place of acceptance regarding your decision not to breastfeed. If that’s the case, know that it’s perfectly fine to embrace bottle-feeding for its convenience and freedom.
Regardless of your emotions—be it regret or peace—please remember this: breastfeeding is about much more than just milk. While breast milk is rich in antibodies and essential nutrients, any amount you were able to provide was a valuable gift. And if you provided none, you didn’t fail. You found alternative ways to nurture your child. You are a mother, and your dedication to your little one is what truly matters.
Breastfeeding is about connection, the tender moments of holding your baby close, gazing into their eyes, and sharing an unspoken bond. It’s about the comfort of having your child nestled safely in your arms, and that can happen no matter how you choose to feed them.
The stigma and shame surrounding the choice not to breastfeed need to end. What truly matters is love. Let’s prioritize love over fear, connection over division. Let’s engage with one another, seek support if needed, and cherish the moments we have with our children. Let’s embrace their delightful scents, breathe in their presence, and take a moment to rest together.
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In summary, your journey as a mother is uniquely yours, shaped by your choices and experiences. Whether you’ve breastfed or not, your love and commitment to your child are what truly define you.