10 Strategies for Navigating Your Child’s First Summer at Sleepaway Camp

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As you prepare for your child’s first summer at sleepaway camp, a mixture of excitement and anxiety is perfectly normal. The contract is signed, the fees are paid, and now it’s time to embrace this significant milestone. This experience marks a crucial opportunity for your child to cultivate independence and learn vital life skills without immediate parental oversight. Reflecting on my own journey, when my son, Jake, attended camp, I found the process to be more emotionally challenging for me than for him. As a stay-at-home parent for several years, the thought of my first child leaving home felt like a mini “empty-nest syndrome.”

On departure day, Jake expressed apprehension, saying, “I’m not sure I can board the bus.” Internally, I battled the urge to keep him home, but I reassured him that it was completely normal to feel anxious. After a heartfelt goodbye, I took my daughter to a morning movie, where I indulged in popcorn and M&M’s while shedding a few tears.

For two weeks, I compulsively refreshed my computer, eagerly awaiting photo updates from camp and analyzing every image for signs of joy or distress. I also anxiously checked the mailbox for letters, and yes, I teared up with each one I received. Ultimately, we all emerged stronger from the experience. Jake thrived, and my daughter enjoyed her time as the sole focus of my attention at home. If you find yourself where I was last summer, here are some strategies to help facilitate a smoother transition for everyone involved.

Before the Summer…

1. Choosing the Right Camp: With so many options, including co-ed or single-sex, local or far away, and specialized programs, the selection process can be overwhelming. A camp director once wisely advised me, “Ultimately, they are all just cabins in the woods.” Establish your top priorities, visit a few camps, and trust your instincts.
2. Make Connections: Try to connect with another camper from your area before camp starts. Having a familiar face can make a world of difference. Additionally, returning campers can offer valuable insights that official camp materials may not provide. Do this a few weeks before camp so you can pack any extra items into your child’s duffel bag.
3. Stick to the Essentials: Adhere to the camp’s packing list without adding unnecessary items. Old, slightly worn clothes can be perfect for camp, as there’s no guarantee what condition they’ll return in. Ensure you label everything that matters (we recommend namebubbles.com for this). However, consider including one trendy item that all the kids want—last year, for example, it was Nike Elite socks.

Once They’re There…

4. Let the Little Things Go: Don’t stress over minor issues like SPF application or hair care. Camp staff will handle the majority of these concerns. When Jake returned home, he was a bit more sun-kissed and had an overall camp smell, but a good wash took care of that.
5. Understand Their Eating Habits: Kids tend to lose weight at camp due to constant activity. If your child has eating concerns, communicate with the camp director. Otherwise, trust that the counselors will inform you if there’s a real issue. Typically, they’ll regain weight shortly after returning home.

On Visiting Day…

6. Ask Thoughtful Questions: Instead of bombarding them with inquiries about their experience, focus on deeper questions: “Are you feeling lonely?” or “How are your friends?” Resist the temptation to stress them out with too many questions—your child will appreciate a more relaxed atmosphere.
7. Be Mindful of Treats: While it’s easy to want to shower your child with candy, check the camp’s policy regarding food. Some camps allow kids to keep treats for a limited time, while others may take them away. Instead, consider bringing something the whole bunk can enjoy, like a Cookie Cake.
8. Avoid Inspecting Their Space: Resist the urge to check cubbies or bathrooms; they will undoubtedly be chaotic. It’s best to spare yourself the sight.
9. Depart Quickly: When it’s time to leave, make it swift. Allow your child to hug a bunkmate and a counselor, then exit without lingering. It’s easier for you to leave than for them to experience a drawn-out farewell.

At Home…

10. Navigating Re-Entry: Some children may struggle with the transition back home, while others, like Jake, adjusted as if they hadn’t left at all. After a couple of days, I was already contemplating sending him back. A month or two after camp ends is the perfect time to discuss their experience and get the answers to those burning questions you’ve held onto. The most important question? “Do you want to return next year?” Jake’s enthusiastic “Absolutely!” was all I needed to hear.

Sleepaway camp is not just a valuable opportunity for children to foster independence; it also allows parents to grow and adapt. You will emerge from this experience intact.

For further insights on related topics, check out our blog post on home insemination. You can also find expert advice at Make a Mom, a trusted source on this subject, as well as this resource from the ASRM.

Summary: Preparing for your child’s first summer at sleepaway camp can be daunting. However, with the right strategies—such as choosing the right camp, connecting with other campers, and maintaining a positive attitude—you and your child can navigate this transitional period smoothly. Embrace the experience as a chance for growth, both for your child and yourself.