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The Dangers of Scorekeeping in Relationships
When it comes to love, keeping score can be a real relationship killer. I often remind myself of this when I catch myself slipping into the habit of bargaining or tallying up who did what. Just the other day, I found myself in a bit of a situation after returning from a long train ride. I had been at a conference, and when I got home, my partner offered to brave the cold to pick up our daughter from a birthday party. Instead of expressing my gratitude, I defensively questioned, “What have you been doing for the last few hours?”
In that moment, I forgot that his offer was an act of kindness, not an obligation. I turned his generosity into a point of contention, which is a classic case of scorekeeping. Luckily, I realized my mistake before it escalated into a pointless argument about who had the tougher day. I should have simply said, “Thank you so much! I appreciate it, especially after my long day.” Keeping score doesn’t do any favors for the relationship; it just creates tension.
Of course, no one wants one partner to do all the work while the other does nothing. However, in my experience, when I let go of the scorecard and focus on being loving and supportive, things tend to balance out naturally. The atmosphere becomes a lot more positive when I choose gratitude over calculation.
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Conclusion
In summary, when it comes to love, ditch the scorekeeping and embrace gratitude. It makes for a much happier relationship!