What I Wish I’d Known as a New Mom

Oh, the newborn phase. Experienced moms often talk about it with a nostalgic glow, which can make new moms want to roll their eyes or even throw a punch. Let’s be real: your first baby is no walk in the park. Sure, in hindsight, one little bundle of joy seems like a vacation, but when you’re sleep-deprived, covered in spit-up, and battling postpartum blues, the idea of doing this for the next eighteen years can feel overwhelming. Trust me, I’ve been there. But if you’re open to some real talk (without throwing a punch), here’s what I wish I’d known when I was a new mom:

This is the Toughest Part.

For the first time, you’re putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own, and that can be seriously daunting. It’s terrifying to realize you’re responsible for another human being. The hardest part? Fighting the urge to be selfish when all you want is a few minutes of peace, especially when you’re dealing with diaper changes and endless feedings. But guess what? You’re not a bad mom; you’re just learning, and that’s a tough gig. High-five for sticking it out!

No One is Judging Your Feeding Choices.

Social media might make you think everyone’s watching, but honestly, nobody cares if you’re breastfeeding in public or using a bottle. And if someone does have the audacity to comment, unleash some of that postpartum power! You’ve got the legal right to nurse wherever you want.

Cluster Feeding Won’t Last Forever.

If you’re feeding on demand, brace yourself—there will be days when your little one seems to want to nurse constantly. You might feel like a zombie, but hang in there; it will pass.

Always Pack Extra Clothes.

You never know when a blowout will happen, so toss in a spare outfit (or three).

You’ll Get Up Close and Personal with Bodily Fluids.

At some point, you will catch baby vomit in your hands, and you won’t bat an eye. You’ll be coated in everything from pee to spit-up, and trust me, it’s a rite of passage for all moms.

Ignore the Critics.

If someone hasn’t experienced childbirth or adoption, their opinions don’t matter. Unless they’re your partner, in which case, they better choose their words wisely.

Your Baby is Portable.

Seriously, strap that baby on and head out! We took our one-month-old to an oyster bar, and nobody even blinked. When the baby fussed, I just fed her. Perfect!

You Don’t Need All the Gear.

A few diapers, a couple of changes of clothes, and a pacifier are all you really need. Skip the extras like peepee teepees and fancy nursing covers.

Trust Your Instincts.

If something feels off, it probably is. There’s no such thing as colic; if your baby is crying constantly, something is wrong. Don’t be afraid to dig deeper until you find the answer.

Accept Help When It’s Offered.

It’s tough to be on the receiving end, but say yes to offers of meals and cleaning help. You owe them nothing—just enjoy the kindness.

It’s Your Baby—You Make the Rules.

Only you and your partner have the right to decide who holds the baby. Don’t hesitate to take your little one back whenever you want.

Just Enjoy the Moment.

Spend time snuggling, binge-watching TV, and soaking in those baby cuddles. This phase is fleeting, and by the time you have your third, you’ll be a pro at finding time to relax.

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Summary:

The newborn stage can be overwhelming, but it’s also a unique time for bonding with your baby. While challenges abound, remember that you’re not alone, and many others have walked the same path. Embrace the journey, lean on your support system, and savor every cuddle.