Hey there! I just wanted to take a moment to share a few thoughts with you after hearing about your child’s recent diagnosis. I know this can feel overwhelming, and I want you to know you’re not alone. As a mom of two boys on the Autism spectrum, I’ve been in your shoes, and I’ve learned a few things along the way. Here are three key things I hope will help you navigate this new journey:
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You Don’t Have to Educate Everyone
It’s tempting to try to explain your child’s situation to everyone who asks, but honestly, not everyone is open to understanding. I remember a time when I was at a café, and a stranger overheard me talking about my kids. She followed me to ask if I vaccinated them, insinuating that it was the cause of their autism. Instead of feeling obligated to educate her, I wish I had just walked away. Some people will never get it, and that’s okay. Your primary role is to be the best parent you can be for your child, not to change the minds of those who don’t understand. -
Friendships May Shift
As you navigate this path, you might notice some friends drifting away. It’s tough, but it often happens when people feel uncomfortable or unsure around children with special needs. Focus on the friends who stick around—they’re the ones who truly care and will support you through the ups and downs. I’ve had friends say some pretty insensitive things, like needing to “grieve the child I wanted.” Just remember, you have the child you’re meant to have. Cherish those who understand your reality. -
Let Go of Perfection
You’ll likely face a lot of opinions and second-guessing about your decisions, but keep in mind that you’re the one living this reality. There’s no blueprint for parenting a child with special needs. Accept that you’ll make mistakes—everyone does. When my second child was diagnosed, I found myself crying again, but this time it was because I knew the challenges ahead. Instead of getting lost in frustration, I focused on their strengths and what makes them unique. It’s important to throw out expectations and embrace this new path.
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Take care, and remember, you’ve got this!