There’s a vivid memory from my parenting journey that I’ll never forget. One day, my 3-year-old daughter came racing through the house, wearing her favorite unicorn pajamas. Out of breath, she exclaimed, “Mom! You need to hurry! There’s been an accident, and there’s poop all over Dad!”
My first instinct was to bolt outside and pretend I didn’t hear her. After all, no one was there to help me when I found myself in sticky situations. But then I remembered my little one was up there with a flustered dad, so I decided to step in and save the day.
Walking into that chaotic scene was both hilarious and heartwarming. It was clear that my partner, despite his best efforts, was in over his head. This scenario seems to happen often, where I waltz in with my “expert” parenting skills while he’s the endearing, confused sidekick. It’s like society has put this label on us — mom as the default expert, and dad as the backup. So today, I’m giving credit where it’s due. Here are ten things my partner does way better than I do, in no particular order:
- Master of Playtime: He has a knack for imaginative play with action figures that I simply don’t possess. While I’m busy trying to create a compelling storyline, he engages our kids effortlessly. They’re off on epic adventures, and I’m just over here trying to figure out Batman’s backstory.
- In the Moment: He seems blissfully unaware of the laundry piling up or the dishes waiting to be done while he’s playing with the kids. While this drives me crazy sometimes, I realize it’s a blessing. He gives them his full attention, and that’s a gift I appreciate.
- Weekend Breakfast Champion: Saturday mornings with him are like a mini celebration. He whips up big breakfasts, allowing the kids to help out, even if it means pancakes end up on the floor. I, on the other hand, would much rather slip out for a quick gym session.
- Reliable Promise Keeper: When he makes a promise to our kids, he follows through. Whether it’s a fishing trip or ice cream night, he’s there. In a world where commitments often fall through, knowing he’s consistent is refreshing.
- Sound Effects Wizard: He can mimic all sorts of sounds that leave our kids in awe. From T. Rex roars to helicopter blades, he’s got it down. I’ve tried, but my attempts are laughable at best.
- Wrestling Pro: He’s the ultimate playmate when it comes to wrestling and roughhousing. He spins them around and carries them on his shoulders like a champ. I tried this once and ended up on the floor with sore knees.
- Natural Patience: Patience isn’t my strong suit. I can muster it when needed, but my partner has it in spades. He seeks to understand our kids’ behavior instead of just reacting, fostering a deeper connection.
- Laughter Instigator: He has a gift for knowing what will crack our kids up. Introducing them to silly videos has become their nighttime ritual, filling our home with laughter.
- Packing Expert: Every time we head out, it looks like we’re moving. He somehow fits everything into the car as if he’s some sort of packing magician. I’m always left in awe.
- Risk Taker: He’s the one who encourages our kids to try things that make me nervous. Whether it’s learning to ride a bike or ski, he’s there to guide them, while I prefer to watch from the sidelines, avoiding the stress of potential injuries.
My partner had a life filled with adventures before kids — from flying planes to enjoying sports events. Yet, he rarely complains about the shift in focus. In fact, his greatest fear is that our kids will grow up too fast. It’s incredible to witness his transformation into a devoted father, and I’m grateful to have him alongside me at our chaotic, joyful table.
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Summary:
In this lighthearted reflection, I share ten ways my partner shines in parenting, from imaginative play to unwavering patience. He’s the fun-loving dad who keeps our kids engaged while I handle the day-to-day chores. Despite the chaos that comes with raising children, I am grateful for his presence in our lives.