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Dads Can Parent, Too
Updated: August 26, 2019
Originally Published: February 2, 2016
I recently stirred the pot with an essay after a friend shared her frustration about how some of her girlfriends kept referring to their husbands as “babysitters” for their kids while they enjoyed a girls’ night out. This really struck a chord with me, so I wanted to dive deeper into this issue.
Let’s clarify something right off the bat: my husband is not a babysitter; he is a parent, just like I am. But let’s break this down simply. At its core, a parent knows what they are doing. Unfortunately, our society has grown accustomed to viewing mothers as the primary caregivers, often leading us to perceive dads as incompetent.
We see this stereotype everywhere. For instance, public men’s restrooms often lack changing stations, implying that fathers wouldn’t know how to change a diaper. Many workplaces offer limited or no paternity leave, as if dads wouldn’t want to spend those crucial early weeks with their newborn. It’s reflected in our media too, with portrayals of clueless dads fumbling through parenting.
This is where the real issue lies. Many men and women express their frustration when fathers are put on pedestals for simply engaging with their children—because the reality is, fathers don’t want that kind of recognition. They’re not exceptions; they’re just doing their best, whether it’s cleaning up messes, teaching new skills, or just being present.
While we definitely want to acknowledge and appreciate the contributions of dads, phrases like “Dad’s babysitting tonight” or “Your husband is such a helper” unintentionally undermine their role. Babysitters come and go; they don’t have the deep connections and responsibilities that parents do. Dads are involved in critical decisions, like how to handle school issues or bedtime routines.
In our household, my partner and I share parenting duties equally. We have different styles, but we share the same values. Our kids have learned to adapt; they know I prefer quiet during reading time, while their dad encourages a more boisterous playtime. Just because we have different approaches doesn’t mean one of us is a better parent. My husband knows how to comfort a child with a stubbed toe, manage school projects, or captivate a 3-year-old with a story. He teaches them important life lessons, from math to respect.
It’s time we shift the narrative. I know dads who long to be seen as capable caregivers, whether they have full custody or are stay-at-home parents. They just want to be recognized for their dedication.
Dads are fully capable of parenting, and it’s high time we support that. For more insights on this topic, check out this article. And if you’re looking for resources on home insemination, Make a Mom is a great authority. For further information on pregnancy, Healthline offers excellent resources.
Summary:
Dads are equally competent as parents and should not be viewed as mere babysitters. Society needs to change its perception of fathers, recognizing their dedication and capability in parenting roles.