How Will We Afford Our Kids’ College Education While Still Managing Our Own Student Loans?

When I received my acceptance letter to a prestigious private college, my parents beamed with pride. No one in my mother’s family had attended college, and while my dad had a degree, he worked tirelessly to fund it. He wanted me to have the opportunity to enjoy extracurricular activities without the burden of a full-time job.

My father was a social worker and my mother was primarily a stay-at-home parent until she pursued nursing and became an RN. By the time I reached college, my parents found themselves in a challenging financial spot—earning too much for significant financial aid but having little saved for my education. I received a partial scholarship, worked a bit during school, and ended up borrowing a substantial amount through both public and private loans.

Fast forward twenty years, and I’m still navigating the repayment of those loans. My husband is in a similar boat, having taken out loans to complete his degree. Now that our eldest child is sixteen, the question looms: how can we support her college aspirations without sinking deeper into debt? Our financial situation hasn’t allowed us to save for her education, largely because we’re still dealing with our own student loans. We want to prevent her from making the same mistakes I did—borrowing excessively for tuition, room, and board—while also avoiding financial ruin ourselves. We’re not alone in this dilemma.

Since I graduated, the cost of college has essentially doubled for both public and private institutions, and it shows no signs of slowing down. With incomes rising at a much slower pace than tuition fees, many parents are struggling to afford higher education, even those without the additional burden of their own student loans.

Having gone through this experience, I’ve identified some strategies to help mitigate the financial challenges of college for my children. Here are a few options we’re considering:

1. College Courses in High School

In our state, there’s a program called Running Start that allows high school juniors and seniors to enroll in community college courses for dual credit. This means they can graduate high school with an associate degree at minimal cost—just books and fees. Even if some credits don’t transfer, we could save thousands.

2. Community Colleges and State Universities

I’ve let go of the idea that expensive colleges are the only path to a quality education. While I enjoyed my small, private college experience, I recognize that larger public institutions can provide excellent education as well. Community college offers a financially savvy option; students can transfer to a four-year school and earn the same diploma at a fraction of the cost.

3. Specialized Scholarships

While my kids aren’t particularly sporty, my daughter has dedicated ten years to playing the violin. We’re hopeful her dedication could lead to scholarship opportunities. Fostering skills in specialized areas can be a smart investment. For instance, I’ve heard that golf can lead to scholarships for girls, and it would have been wise to encourage her to play viola instead, as those spots are often harder to fill.

4. Studying Abroad

Studying abroad is often viewed as an expensive endeavor, yet there are universities in other countries that offer affordable tuition—or even free education. This could open doors to opportunities we hadn’t previously considered.

5. Alternative Training — or No College at All

We often think a four-year degree is essential, but many lucrative careers don’t require one. If a teen is uncertain about their future, college can be an expensive way to explore options. Exploring paths that include specialized training, apprenticeships, or self-directed learning might be a more prudent choice.

While I wish I could offer my child every opportunity, her educational choices will inevitably be shaped by what we can afford. Until higher education becomes more accessible in the U.S., and until we’ve settled our own debts, we’ll need to be creative. Exploring various options with an open mind could help our children avoid a lifetime of financial strain.

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In summary, facing the challenge of affording our children’s education while managing our own student loan debts requires thoughtful planning and creative solutions. By exploring various options, from dual credit programs to alternative career paths, we can help pave a path to success without falling into financial hardship.