We need to chat. I know those passionate nights we shared while trying to conceive have set a certain expectation, but things have shifted. Not too long ago, I was not pregnant and feeling pretty fabulous—like, I had a libido! But now? Not so much. You say I’m still attractive, but I’m just not feeling it right now. It’s really not about you; it’s me. Here’s a peek into my world:
1. My skin is having its own crisis.
Seriously, I’ve reverted to a teenage state, complete with breakouts not just on my face, but on my chest too. Back in the day, I could hardly handle a boy holding my hand, let alone having you get close to my “boobne” (yes, that’s a term for boob acne). Even though you’ve witnessed me give birth three times, it just feels a bit too vulnerable right now.
2. My sense of smell is heightened to an absurd level.
Remember those onion rings you had last week? They’re still lingering on your breath. You’ve brushed your teeth, I know, but I could probably sniff out a hidden stash of snacks a mile away. So, let’s just say that lingering odor isn’t doing any favors when it comes to intimacy.
3. My body is undergoing some pretty bizarre changes.
My digestive system is confused; one moment I’m feeling bloated and uncomfortable, and the next I’m running to the bathroom. Honestly, letting you get near my lower half when things are so unpredictable? No thanks!
4. I feel like a clumsy penguin.
My belly is growing, and with it, so is the rest of me. After indulging in comfort food to combat nausea, there’s not much flexibility left in my body. So, if you were contemplating some Kama Sutra moves, let’s just say those plans need to be shelved for now.
5. We have an audience.
Sure, the doctor may have reassured us that intimacy is perfectly fine and that the baby is oblivious, but would you really want to get intimate with one of our kids in the room? I didn’t think so. Our little one doesn’t have a choice but to experience everything, and it just feels wrong.
My love, I promise that this phase won’t last forever. One day, my sex drive will return. If you take a look at the slight age difference between our children, you’ll see that this isn’t a long-term state.
For more insights on navigating this journey, check out this post on intracervical insemination. And for those looking into artificial insemination options, Make a Mom is a great resource as well. Plus, if you want to educate yourself further on pregnancy and fertility, the CDC has excellent information.
In summary, while we may not be intimate right now, this phase is temporary. I promise we will come out on the other side.