Updated: August 22, 2015
Originally Published: February 20, 2013
My sister’s wedding was a stunning event. Set in a charming historical park, the reception venue was adorned with exquisite floral arrangements, making the entrance through the barn doors utterly breathtaking. The atmosphere was filled with romance, and yet, standing at the edge of the parking lot, I felt a familiar urge to flee. In my arms, I held a sleepy one-year-old, and beside me was my energetic four-year-old, who seemed more interested in flinging gravel than attending a wedding. As I donned my fancy attire for once, I felt a mix of nerves and anxiety, bracing myself for chaos.
To my surprise, the evening turned out to be a delightful experience with my little ones. My initial thoughts that children and weddings would clash were completely transformed by the end of the night, as I strolled into the darkness, my one-year-old still in my arms, while my four-year-old, dirt-covered and shirtless, trailed behind.
1. Embracing Patience and Kindness on Your Special Day
Every couple has a unique experience on their wedding day. Traditions may be similar, but they’re always executed with a personal touch. During my sister’s ceremony, they shared vows that were refreshingly different and deeply meaningful. However, my attempt to shush my son only resulted in him loudly announcing his thoughts on “Angry Birds” to the crowd. My husband whisked him away while my son’s pleas faded into the distance, making me chuckle as I tried to blend into the crowd and pretend I didn’t know the source of the commotion.
Kids truly bring a unique joy to events, but they also remind us to savor the moments before they become parents themselves, managing the chaos of a toddler who’s just spilled juice all over a nice restaurant table.
2. Finding Joy in the Unexpected
Weddings can be pricey—venues, flowers, bands—the expenses add up quickly. Inviting children can be a gamble, given their natural propensity for mischief. Yet, as the evening progressed and the children began to play together, smiles spread across the faces of the guests. Their innocent joy was infectious, especially after I had a few cocktails.
Then I noticed my son chatting with the bartender, requesting “two more Diet Cokes.” After learning this was his third soda, we compromised with a club soda instead. His antics quickly transformed into entertainment for the guests, and I found myself enjoying the show rather than worrying about disruptions.
3. Rekindling Connections Through Laughter
Having children often changes our relationships, sometimes creating distance from old friends. However, seeing my kids interact with family members was heartwarming. Weddings are a wonderful chance to reconnect with your past, share laughter, and celebrate the love that surrounds you.
As I watched my son devour cake while the guests commented on his lively spirit, I realized that people were admiring his energy instead of judging his antics. They wished for a fraction of his enthusiasm, and I felt proud to introduce them to my children, who are part of the unique tapestry of my family.
Reflecting on the evening, I remembered my own wedding nearly eight years ago when I chose to exclude children. At the time, I feared their presence would lead to early departures. Now, I recognize how wrong I was. Having kids at the wedding added a special touch of joy and unpredictability, mirroring the journey of marriage itself.
So, my advice? Invite the kids to your wedding and make sure there’s a full bar as well.
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In summary, including children in your wedding can add an element of fun and spontaneity, reminding us of the joys of family and love.