As a parent, whether you’re expecting, adopting, or using a surrogate, you often find yourself preparing for every possible scenario. You dive into books, blogs, and advice from friends and family, all in the name of getting ready for your little one. But the moment that tiny human is placed in your arms, it’s as if all that preparation vanishes, leaving you feeling like a fish out of water. The first year is a whirlwind of emotions, ranging from “What have I gotten myself into?” to “I can totally handle this!” But those initial experiences are just the beginning of the unexpected journey ahead. Here are 10 moments I never saw coming:
- The first time my almost 5-year-old called me “Mom.” Gone were the days of “Mommy” and “Mama,” replaced with a term that felt way too grown-up. It hit me hard that my baby was no longer a baby.
- Her first kiss. At four years old, it seemed too early for this milestone. It meant nothing to her, and probably not much to the boy on the playground either, but it’s a reminder that one day she’ll experience real love and relationships. I can’t help but feel unprepared for all that lies ahead.
- The first time she put her dishes in the sink unprompted. Sure, independence is what we strive for, but couldn’t she stay my little girl a bit longer? I’d happily wash her dishes forever if it meant freezing time.
- Her first drop-off birthday party. I found myself with two free hours and no clue how to fill the time. It was a strange mix of freedom and anxiety.
- The first time she expressed a strong opinion about her clothes. While I’m thrilled she’s developing her own sense of style, I miss dressing her in outfits that reflect my taste.
- Her first real day of school. There were tears—mine and hers. But she came home buzzing about new friends. I couldn’t help but worry: What if she faces bullying? What if she struggles to speak up? Though I trust my parenting, sending her into the world felt so final.
- The first time she went to her grandparents and didn’t cry. On one hand, my heart swelled with pride that she felt secure without me; on the other, I couldn’t shake the feeling of loss.
- The first time she yelled at me for waking her up. I caught a glimpse of her teenage self in that moment, and I know those years won’t be easy.
- The first time she rolled her eyes at me. My sweet girl, once so polite, suddenly unleashed a wave of sass. For now, it’s amusing, but I know it’s just the beginning of a new phase.
- The first time she raided my makeup. In a moment of distraction, I found her in the bathroom attempting to transform herself into a Monster High Doll. I was not ready to share my prized makeup collection with my daughter!
Now she’s almost five, and with each passing day, I know I’ll face even more unexpected moments. While there are still times I see my baby in her, the reality is, she’s growing up fast, and I’m not quite ready for it.
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Summary:
Motherhood is filled with surprising moments that can catch any parent off guard. From the bittersweet transition of names to unexpected milestones like first kisses or opinions on fashion, each experience reminds us of how quickly our little ones grow. While we cherish the memories, we often find ourselves unprepared for the changes that come with each passing year.