Updated: July 8, 2021
Originally Published: Oct. 25, 2015
When I first stepped into motherhood, I faced a real challenge in defining my “mom” identity. I was surrounded by so many remarkable moms, each with their own special skills and talents. I found myself wanting to emulate them all, but I quickly realized that I couldn’t do everything. It became essential for me to discover my own style of parenting and embrace it wholeheartedly. Here’s a look at the types of moms I’m definitely not:
The Mom Who Organizes Incredible Playdates
You know the one—she has an arsenal of activities ready, like Play-Doh, arts and crafts, or even a fun science experiment that will make every kid feel like they’re in a theme park. Her home is decked out in vibrant decorations, and the snacks are themed to match. I’m not that mom. My playdates are much more low-key. Honestly, the thought of a large group painting session in my living room sends my anxiety levels soaring.
The Mom Who Seems to Have It All Together
She’s juggling five-year-old twins, a two-year-old, and a dog at the park. Oh, and she’s expecting again! Her children are well-mannered and behave impeccably. I’m not that mom. My kids are currently having a showdown over a sand shovel.
The Mom Who Could Be a Professional Chef
Her meals look like they belong on the cover of a gourmet magazine. They’re delicious, and miraculously, my children will eat them! My husband often wishes I could whip up meals like hers. But, I’m not that mom. My cooking tends to lean toward the simple side, and we cycle through the same few dishes each week.
The Mom Who Is a Master Organizer
She’s involved in the PTA, runs a book club, and organizes neighborhood events. I’m not that mom. I simply don’t have the social energy, time, or patience to keep up with everything she does.
The Mom Who Is Crafty Beyond Belief
She knits, sews, and makes matching outfits for her kids. She even has an Etsy shop! I’m not that mom. Sewing is not my forte, and I don’t particularly enjoy repetitive tasks. I’ll just buy my crafts from her store instead.
The Mom Whose Home Is Always Immaculate
Her house looks like it came straight out of a lifestyle magazine. Every room, including the playroom, is organized and spotless. She apologizes for what she deems “messy,” even when it’s pristine. I am certainly not that mom. If you stop by my place, you’ll likely find toys scattered everywhere and a few unmade beds.
The Mom Who Lives on Coffee
Many of my mom friends are coffee enthusiasts, but I’m not that mom. I’ve given it a shot, but it just isn’t for me. If there’s a gathering at a coffee shop, you’ll find me sipping tea, and I’m perfectly fine with that.
I’ve discovered that my happiness flourishes when I stop trying to be that mom. Instead, I embrace who I truly am. I’m the mom with a slightly cluttered home, the one whose kids occasionally misbehave. I’m not responsible for organizing every event, and while I strive to provide nutritious meals, I also let my kids indulge in treats from time to time.
Ultimately, I’m the mom who prioritizes joy, happiness for my kids, and making lasting memories together. And for me and my family, that’s more than enough.
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In summary, motherhood is a unique journey, and it’s essential to accept our own version of being a mom rather than comparing ourselves to others.