“How did you know you were finished having kids?” “I just knew.” What a vague response, right? I mean, can’t someone provide a precise number for the perfect family size? As the youngest of five siblings, I always envisioned having a big family myself. I thought pregnancy would be a breeze, breastfeeding would be pain-free, and I’d be the disciplined mom with all the strategies in place, while still getting plenty of restful sleep.
But planning can be a challenge for the overly optimistic. After welcoming three wonderful children into my life, I’ve come to understand why three feels just right. Here are five reasons I’m confident my family is complete:
1. Practicality vs. Chaos
While two kids might be the more sensible option, I thrive on the chaos that comes with three. I love the thrill of getting everyone dressed, fed, and out the door before the school bell rings. Three kids inject a delightful dose of unpredictability into my daily routine.
2. Organizational Overload
I’m adventurous enough to handle three kids but not structured enough for four. If I added another little one, I fear my mind would completely implode. I strive to keep my life organized, but I often find myself scrambling to remember school events and deadlines. Juggling three sets of forms, activities, and personalities is enough of a challenge!
3. The Financial Factor
Having kids certainly comes with its expenses. I often find myself torn when buying duplicates of items, but there’s something comforting about picking out lip balm in multiple colors for my kids. It brings a sense of balance and completeness that I’ve come to appreciate.
4. Shared Interests Among Siblings
The age gap among my children allows them to enjoy activities together seamlessly. Whether it’s playing on the swings, zooming down go-karts, or enjoying a day at the library, their shared interests make family outings a joy. If one of them starts to drift toward different hobbies, hiring a live-in nanny might be my only solution!
5. Embracing Peaceful Nights
After my last child was born, I often felt the weight of postpartum blues, compounded by sleepless nights. It was a tough journey, but ultimately, I knew I was finished when I listened to my heart, my partner, and even my finances. The thought of adding another baby brought me a year of emotional back-and-forth, until one day, I simply felt it in my bones.
Of course, I still find myself cooing over baby announcements and reminiscing about the days of soft, sleepy snuggles. But I remind myself that as long as my kids need me, they’ll always be my little ones—just bigger and more rambunctious. And when they eventually grow up and no longer require my help with zipping jackets, finding shoes, or reading bedtime stories, I will forever cherish my role as their mom.
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In summary, every family’s journey is unique, and knowing when to stop growing your family is a personal decision influenced by various factors. Embrace your choices and know that every stage of motherhood has its own special rewards.