Dear Mom,
I can only imagine what it must be like for you. My kids are all grown up and have never had a stepmother, while your little ones are still navigating the joys of childhood with me as their stepmom. Although we’ve been in the same room, we’ve never had the chance to truly connect. I understand you might have questions about me and how I care for your children, and it’s natural to wonder if they’re in good hands when they’re with me during our weekends or holidays together.
Here’s what I want you to know:
Your children are truly remarkable, and I care for them deeply. You’ve done an incredible job raising them. Yes, they can be a handful—what kids aren’t?—but I love them just as I love my own. I make their favorite meals, cater to their sometimes picky palates, and even help rinse the conditioner from their hair. I tuck them in at night and give them gentle kisses on their foreheads. I hold their hands when we cross the street and offer comfort when they’re feeling down. I plan fun activities and pay attention to every word they say. I throw the football with your son and enjoy painting your daughter’s nails.
On the other hand, you should know what I don’t do. I don’t discipline them; that’s their father’s role, as I believe it isn’t my place. I am kind and never ignore them or act unkindly. I respect your authority and would never do anything I know you wouldn’t want me to.
Your children express their love for me openly, and I cherish that connection. They often mention you, reminding me how much they love and miss you. For instance, your youngest will see something that makes her think of you, like a special trinket at the flea market, or when I make chicken fried steak, they might say, “It’s delicious, but it’s not as good as Mom’s.” It warms my heart to see how they carry you with them even when they’re away.
I understand that co-parenting can be challenging, but it’s important to remember the love you once shared with their dad. You recognized all the wonderful qualities in him that I still see today. He’s a devoted father who lights up with excitement when the kids arrive and feels a tinge of sadness when they leave. He shares stories about them daily, showering them with love and affection. He encourages them to love me, reassuring them that it doesn’t diminish their love for you or their stepdad. How fortunate these children are to have four caring adults in their lives, especially when many kids have none.
So please, rest easy when they are in my care. I promise to protect them fiercely and treat them as I would want my own children to be treated. While my love for them can never compare to yours as their mother, I assure you it is a profound love—one that a stepmother holds dear.
Warm regards,
Stepmom