April 8, 2023
You know what really gets under my skin? Repeating the same instructions to my kids, only to be met with blank stares and stubborn resistance. I swear there was a study somewhere claiming that persistent nagging yields better results, but that certainly doesn’t apply in my home. So, I decided it was time to take control.
For the last month, my 7-year-old daughter and I have been engaged in an ongoing struggle over her room. It’s overflowing with everything from stuffed animals and craft projects to dirty laundry and scattered books. The chaos extends from the floor to her closet and deep into her dresser drawers. At this point, I’ve had enough—she’s old enough to tidy up her own space.
Is this a common issue among parents? After exhausting every tactic from bribery to turning cleaning into a playful activity, I found myself out of options. Then one night, while scrolling through social media, I stumbled upon a humorous post by a popular dad blogger who suggested cleaning a child’s messy room using a trash bag. That idea sparked a light bulb moment for me.
I grabbed a trash bag from the kitchen and set a timer for 30 minutes. I called up the stairs to my daughter, “Hey! You have 30 minutes to clean your room! If you don’t pick up all the toys, books, and clothes from the floor, I’ll be coming up to collect them in this trash bag, and you won’t see them again!”
Silence followed. I called out again, “Do I need to come up there?”
Her response was a dramatic, “Mooooom! I don’t want to clean my room!”
“Time is running out! Let’s get moving!”
The next 29 minutes felt interminable. I could hear her stomping around, and I’m pretty sure I caught a few grumbles. But I was resolute—no child of mine would live in filth while ignoring the countless chances I’d given her to manage her own space.
When the timer went off, I announced, “Alright, time’s up! Here I come!” It felt like a twisted game of hide-and-seek, and instead of seeking laughter, I was on a mission to gather all the clutter for a lesson in responsibility.
Entering her room was like stepping into a disaster zone—stuff was everywhere. In just under three minutes, I filled the trash bag to the brim, all while dodging sharp Lego pieces that could tear through anything.
My daughter cried about how unfair I was being, lamenting her terrible life and even threatening to run away to her best friend’s house. But once the tears subsided, we had a heart-to-heart about the importance of taking care of our belongings.
Together, we finished tidying up her space. Though she wasn’t thrilled about it, she was cooperative. We cleaned the windows, vacuumed the floor, organized her drawers, and returned her books to the shelf.
At the end of it all, we made a deal: if she could keep her room clean for two weeks without my nagging, she could earn back her bag of items. When the time came, we went through the contents together, and her treasures found their rightful places once again.
Although it’s only been a few weeks, this approach has proven to be the most effective cleaning lesson my daughter has experienced. She understands the consequences of letting her room devolve into chaos, and she definitely doesn’t want me showing up with a trash bag again.
Here’s hoping it sticks!
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