To My Tween Daughter: Your Period Can Be Empowering

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As I approach 50, I find myself preparing to pass on the knowledge of menstruation to my tween daughter, Mia. (Yes, imagine a tampon!) My aim is to share not just facts, but a positive perspective on this natural process that many women have learned to dread.

While menstruation has become a less taboo subject compared to previous generations, it often carries a negative connotation. Historically, men have perpetuated myths about menstruation, questioning women’s abilities in high-stakes roles due to hormonal fluctuations. Yet, I want Mia to see her body as a source of strength.

Here are four empowering aspects of menstruation that I plan to discuss with Mia when she’s ready:

1. Connection Among Women:

Menstruation is a shared experience that unites women. I remember bonding with my college roommates over the synchronization of our cycles. In every workplace I’ve been part of, women frequently lend a helping hand to each other, whether that’s sharing a tampon or offering pain relief for cramps. This commonality fosters a sense of sisterhood, regardless of age or background.

2. An Excuse When Needed:

Life can be overwhelming, and sometimes it’s okay to use an excuse to bow out of certain activities. In high school, I discovered that mentioning my period was a foolproof way to skip swimming class. Today, if I need a reason to leave an event early or avoid an uncomfortable situation, simply referencing “female issues” often suffices. It’s a way to gain sympathy without facing scrutiny.

3. A Reminder of Our Sexuality:

It may sound unusual, but menstruation can serve as a reminder of our sexual selves. Going through daily routines while experiencing this natural process adds an intriguing layer to our femininity. It can even enhance intimacy with an understanding partner, as some find this aspect of womanhood uniquely alluring.

4. A Reflection of Our Potential:

One of the most significant lessons I learned from my mother’s guidance was the power behind menstruation. Each month, our bodies prepare for the possibility of creating life. While many may not wish to become pregnant, the mere capability is a testament to our strength and uniqueness as women.

Mia will undoubtedly encounter negative perceptions about menstruation as she grows up. Historically viewed as a burden, it’s essential to shift this mindset. I intend to address both the challenges and the empowering aspects of periods, helping her recognize that this is a natural part of being female rather than a flaw.

In sharing these insights, I hope to foster a sense of pride in her body and its functions. After all, understanding her menstrual cycle can be a source of empowerment and connection, rather than something to be ashamed of.

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Summary:

As I prepare to discuss menstruation with my daughter Mia, I aim to instill a positive perspective about her period. By highlighting the connections it fosters among women, the occasional necessity for an excuse, the reminder of our sexual selves, and the potential for new life, I hope to empower her to embrace this natural process.