Recently, I overheard someone say, “My mom said I could participate in any sport except cheerleading. There was no way I was going to cheer for the boys.” As a feminist, I understood this sentiment, but as someone who once cheered, I found myself conflicted. This led me to reflect on whether I would allow my daughter (or my son) to join a cheerleading squad. My answer was clear: absolutely.
As both a feminist and a former cheerleader, I appreciate the ongoing discussion surrounding this topic. There was a time when I felt embarrassed about my cheerleading past. I used to ask my dad not to mention it to my boyfriend (who is now my husband), and I tried to hide my cheer-related memorabilia from friends in college. It simply didn’t align with my self-image; I wasn’t peppy, didn’t care much for school spirit, and I identified strongly as a feminist. The notion that I was merely a girl cheering for male athletes felt disingenuous.
Even in high school, cheerleading didn’t fully represent who I was. However, I recognized the need for extracurricular activities to enhance my college applications, especially since my best friend was the captain, and, well, I could still enjoy the social scene.
Reflecting on my experiences, I realize cheerleading was a valuable part of my life. It’s a demanding sport that teaches important values, much like any other athletic pursuit. To narrowly define feminism based on specific appearances or activities is a form of prejudice in itself. Enjoying pink or caring about appearance doesn’t negate one’s commitment to gender equality. These are simply societal expectations, not intrinsic values.
Feminists come in all shapes and sizes, and we don’t need to conform to a single mold to advocate for equal rights. I can appreciate a day at the spa while still fighting for fair compensation. I can support reproductive rights in a stylish outfit — possibly even a mini skirt and heels if I choose! We often get caught up in how people should look or act, overlooking the essence of who they are. As RuPaul wisely said, “We are born naked and the rest is just drag.”
We’re fortunate to have the freedom to participate in activities that express our identity, but that expression is secondary to our core values. It’s important to uplift and support others, regardless of how we choose to present ourselves.
While I once felt ashamed of being a cheerleader, that sentiment has faded. I now see the benefits of encouragement and teamwork, and, honestly, I appreciated the skirt.
One lingering concern is the stereotype that women primarily exist to support men in sports. I’ve come to terms with the fact that all sports can seem arbitrary upon closer inspection. Imagine explaining football to an alien: “We attempt to move a ball down a field while a group of men tackle each other. Some even sustain injuries!” In that light, cheerleading, with its choreography and performance, seems more structured.
However, there is an unspoken hierarchy among sports. For instance, field hockey players often undermine cheerleaders, labeling them as not engaging in a “real” sport. I’ve even joked that my son should avoid playing hockey because of stereotypes about that sport. At a recent gathering, a well-meaning teacher expressed disappointment when a talented student decided to join cheerleading, as if it were a poor choice. When she playfully asked if any of us had been cheerleaders, I decided to embrace my past instead of hiding it. As soon as I admitted my history, I could see her discomfort — not because of me, but due to her preconceived notions.
I understand the societal biases at play. Intelligence and cheerleading don’t have to be mutually exclusive. Being feminine doesn’t negate feminist ideals. It’s essential to challenge these stereotypes and embrace the diversity within feminism. We can be feminist cheerleaders or athletes who enjoy baking. It took me many years to accept something that once brought me shame; being a cheerleader is part of my journey, and I have the power to decide how I view that experience.
In the end, I’m grateful for cheerleading, as it contributed to my personal growth and led me to where I am today, and I’m genuinely content with that.
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Summary
This article explores the complex feelings surrounding cheerleading from a feminist perspective. It highlights the value of cheerleading as a sport and a form of self-expression, while challenging stereotypes about women in sports. The author reflects on personal experiences and the importance of supporting diverse identities within feminism.