Updated: Aug. 5, 2018
Originally Published: Aug. 3, 2018
During my first childbirth experience, I anticipated a certain level of exposure typical of hospital settings. Through countless mommy blogs and discussions with fellow mothers, I was aware that numerous personnel might be present during labor. However, what took me by surprise was the overwhelming sense of invisibility I felt despite being surrounded by medical staff while in such a vulnerable state. This was the most disheartening aspect of my experience at a bustling hospital.
I want to acknowledge the nurses who provided commendable care throughout my labor, particularly since I was induced and spent an extended duration in the facility. My pushing phase lasted nearly three hours, forcing me to remain in a position that left me feeling exposed. During this time, a seemingly constant stream of individuals entered and exited the room—doctors, shift-changing nurses, and the pediatric team, among others. Unfortunately, only a few of these individuals took the time to address me directly, leaving me feeling more like a clinical subject than a person.
A particularly striking moment occurred when a medical resident visited to check on my doctor. She gestured towards my exposed body while discussing how she could assist, yet failed to introduce herself or engage with me. This lack of acknowledgment was not an isolated incident. Towards the conclusion of my labor, when my physician consulted an on-call obstetrician regarding the potential use of a vacuum extractor, they stood near my feet, gesturing and conversing about procedures without ever making eye contact or addressing me.
Following the birth of my child, the atmosphere in the room became frantic. The pediatric team quickly took my baby for assessment, while my doctor attended to my recovery needs. Conversations regarding my care were held around me but never directed at me, creating an environment that felt disempowering and neglectful.
I understand that the nature of medical emergencies often necessitates quick action, and not every detail can be communicated. However, the pace in my delivery room didn’t reflect this urgency; the induction process and labor felt prolonged. It is apparent that labor and delivery staff encounter numerous patients regularly, which may lead to a desensitization to the emotional and physical impact of childbirth.
The indifference I experienced was likely not intentional; perhaps some staff members believed that allowing me space was beneficial. Yet, I believe it is crucial to treat women in labor with dignity and respect. If a medical professional finds it necessary to discuss aspects of my care, a simple introduction or acknowledgment would go a long way in preserving my sense of humanity during such an intimate experience.
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In summary, while I am grateful for the medical care I received, the lack of personal interaction and acknowledgment from the staff during my childbirth experience left me feeling overlooked and dehumanized. A more compassionate approach could significantly enhance the emotional experience for mothers during such a pivotal moment.