5 Ways Working as a Server Prepared Me for Motherhood

Ah, the world of waitressing! It’s a role that demands a cheerful demeanor while managing patrons who often express their frustrations through complaints and demands. I worked as a server throughout my college years, and while I initially utilized my degree in psychology, I firmly believe that my time in the restaurant industry taught me invaluable lessons about human behavior, especially as I prepared for the monumental task of motherhood.

Here are five key lessons I learned from waitressing that have proven essential in my journey as a mother:

1. Identify the Difficult Personalities

As I served customers, I quickly learned to identify those who would be challenging right from the start. With a smile plastered on my face, I would approach their table, only to be interrupted with demands before I could even greet them. Fast forward to motherhood, and the parallels are striking. Just yesterday, my son, with his tousled hair and oversized onesie, approached me with a specific request before I could finish my morning greeting. Whether dealing with rude customers or my children, the principle remains: don’t take it personally, maintain your composure, and model the respect you wish to receive. And occasionally, it might be fun to “forget” to add that extra ingredient they want.

2. Take Responsibility

During my serving days, there were moments of panic when I realized a table had been waiting far too long for their order. My instinct was to blame the kitchen for the delay. However, I learned that taking responsibility is crucial. If I wanted to maintain my credibility, I had to own up to my mistakes. This lesson translates directly to parenting; when faced with chaos at home, it’s important to acknowledge my role in it rather than deflect blame onto my children. It turns out, I’m the one dropping the ball more often than I’d like to admit.

3. Embrace the Mess

In my first week of waitressing, I experienced spills and mishaps that tested my limits. From dropping an entire tray of food to encountering unexpected messes, it became clear that things could always get worse. As a new mom, I soon discovered the realities of diaper blowouts and reflux. Now, as I clean up after my son’s spaghetti adventures, I remind myself that the chaos is manageable. After all, it could always be messier!

4. Develop a Tolerance for Complaints

As a server, I encountered a myriad of complaints, often from people who didn’t fully understand the service process. This experience prepared me for the seemingly endless grievances of a toddler. When my son rejects a meal or declares it “too stringy,” I recall my days in the restaurant, where a smile and nod were the best responses to difficult customers. It’s all part of the game, and patience is key.

5. Prioritize the Children

I learned that catering to children is essential for receiving good tips as a server. Kids need attention, and their happiness translates to the satisfaction of their parents. Now, as a mother, I apply this lesson every day. When I see my boys acting up in public, I understand that if I can keep them entertained and happy, it benefits everyone involved. Ultimately, if my kids are content, I can navigate the challenges of parenting more smoothly.

My experiences as a server have equipped me with skills that are indispensable in raising my two lively boys. One day, I’ll encourage them to seek jobs in restaurants, allowing them to gain their own insight into navigating challenging personalities and demanding situations. As they embark on this journey, I’ll be there, ready to hear their stories and share a knowing smile, understanding that they are gaining invaluable skills in communication and empathy.

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Summary: My time as a waitress has provided me with essential skills that aid in my parenting journey. From recognizing challenging personalities to taking responsibility for my actions, embracing mess, developing tolerance for complaints, and prioritizing my children’s happiness, these lessons have proven invaluable.