In the words of renowned author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, “I think that’s the case for many women. But our culture makes us think we have to choose slices of ourselves that we’re comfortable showing the world.” This sentiment often resonates in conversations, like the one I had at a recent family dinner where we unexpectedly found ourselves discussing societal grooming norms. I mentioned how historically, female shaving has kept women in a state perceived as more docile. My son, in his typical 11-year-old fashion, exclaimed, “Mom! You might as well be upset that I can run around without a shirt but Lila can’t.” It was clear he understood my point.
The dialogue around women and feminism has gained momentum lately. With a powerful presence in the media, women are advocating for authenticity. For instance, singer Ava Lane has made headlines with her #nomakeupmovement, showcasing her natural beauty on her album cover. In her essay “Unmasking Myself,” she articulates her desire to reveal her true self: “I don’t want to cover up anymore. Not my face, not my mind, not my soul…” This message encapsulates strength and a fresh perspective on self-acceptance.
Interestingly, I find myself rarely wearing makeup. Days when I do are the exception rather than the norm. My hair, often wild and unruly, is usually thrown together in a messy bun. I live most of my life in comfortable workout attire, and if success were measured by appearance, I might be deemed a failure. Yet, I see a connection between my lifestyle choices and the message Ava conveys.
Her decision to present herself bare-faced speaks volumes. She has stripped away societal pressures and embraced her authenticity, reflecting her journey of self-discovery. In a similar vein, writer Jane Richards discusses how Hillary Clinton’s choice to appear at a post-election press conference without makeup represented a rejection of societal expectations. She notes, “There is no denying the power and freedom in rejecting vanity.”
This theme of empowerment and personal choice is crucial. I’m not suggesting that women abandon shaving or makeup entirely; rather, I believe we should thoughtfully consider the motivations behind our choices. Rosie Molinary, a friend and author, argues that “if you are obsessed, you are oppressed.”
When I rush to get ready for work and my daughter remarks, “Mom, you care too much about what people think,” I often feel the need to justify my choices. I want her to understand that my appearance can be a reflection of my professional role. However, I also enjoy showing different aspects of myself in my everyday life, like when I coach at our local CrossFit gym.
It’s tempting to join the movement and shed my makeup and styling products in solidarity with Ava while belting out my favorite empowering anthem. However, personal grooming choices only scratch the surface. The essence of my empowerment should be woven into my daily life. Responses like, “That’s how we’ve always done it,” just don’t cut it anymore. I aim to hold myself to a higher standard.
For now, I’ll continue to shave my legs and occasionally wear makeup because that’s my choice. I don’t need to look like my dad to make a feminist statement. My goal is to be present and mindful of the motivations behind my choices, reflecting on my role as a woman in today’s culture. There are countless issues that deserve examination. I’m all in, Ava—let’s reveal the truth together!
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In summary, embracing our natural selves can be a powerful statement of self-acceptance. By questioning societal norms and understanding our motivations, we can empower ourselves and others to live authentically.